Jersey*Girl
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:banghead: I almost feel like I have to tell my story to make this more plausible. I'm not going to, other than the basics - simply because I don't want certain people finding me (and no, it's not LE - it's family & media).
I do come from wealth which is just as underbelly as one can imagine. I grew up in a time of "tough love" with no sympathy. It wasn't unheard of to have your child run off and just either wait or call the police to handle it quietly. My mother only listed me when my parents divorced, at that point I wasn't recognizable.
About the part of looking gaunt and meth. Where I live now, I don't see meth use unless it is in the gay community (this isn't slander, it's just more part of the gay culture in larger cities). I see more gauntness from rx pill abuse and heroin or crack. Although I know some very healthy looking methadone and crack users. Opiates cause a person to crave sweets and it also causes less saliva in their mouth, which result into cavities. People on drugs (after awhile) fear going to the dr or dentist and being detected, so their bodies deteriorate. I see this more in medicaid patients due to the stringent laws in drug testing and such. Others want off the map and do not have health insurance, while 1 day of drug use = one dentist visit, they rather not. I can look at BW photos and see drug use. I know what I'm looking for too though (the forehead - the heavy lids - the pupils). I personally do not see meth use, I see pain pills.
Let's all get on one page here, there's no such thing as binges with heroin or meth. None. People like it once and hate it, try it again to test it, never to touch either again OR they get that elation and they look as though they go on binges for a few reasons:
1. drug testing (her daughter was not in her care, if state was in on removal to the father hence paternity test that's been claimed- CPS almost always requires follow up on drug screens prior to alone time. Only though, if they've tested positive before. Where I am, the drug screen is done through a cheek swab now).
2. They run out of money.
3. they are functioning addicts. That means they have food in the house, use enough to feel stable and hide behind closed doors.
Drinking, smoking pot and doing bath salts (which was on her FB wall) is not the sign of a binger. it's a sign of an addict who will try anything as long as there's a promise high. I don't buy into "kids will experiment" bs if they are having kids themselves.
I'm not here on a high horse. I'm not here to argue. I'm here to give my speculation and a new direction because I've read all the locked threads. I've read things that were out right nasty and things that made sense but not elaborated upon. I don't know why someone won't listen to a person who's both a professional in this field and spent ages 13-and on, on drugs.
There's a wonderful but sad saying by Hubert Selby Jr "I didn't change the names, the place or the lifestyle of the characters of Requiem for a dream _from the book to the film - because a junkies tale has never evolved". Think about that.
And lastly, if her family is destitute or considered "poor", then someone is on govt aide I'm sure. This would make the police roll their eyes even more. She didn't' disappear into thin air everyone, she's here - somewhere and until people stop believe one way or the other, stop looking at it "had to be the uncles" - NOTHING will be done. The FBI isn't involved for a reason and it has to go deeper than drugs. I know personally of someone who was murdered over drugs and trust me, FBI was all over it (and they were immigrants / dealers). There's a reason... there's a reason.
The truth lies somewhere in between what the family knows, LE is saying and what we speculate here.
My gosh this is sooo worth repeating. Has to be one of the best most poignant posts I've read in years. Seriously. Wish you were in front of me so I could give ya a hug!