Alioop. The diary IS personal. It IS so very telling. It IS embarrassing.I found it so hard to read Allison's diary in the MSM. Its about as personal as you can get. Her family must not be impressed with it being published.
But the bottom line is this, the author is dead.
It is also the story of a lovely lady who was married to a Malignant Narcissistic Psychopath. IMO.
Don't think even the lady herself recognized that. (Thought she should have been able to manage situation.)
I have the feeling there are posters here, and/ or on the other site who can empathize with the diary author, and her traits.
Her need to clam up. Put up and shut up. Too personal. Don't want to expose this vulgarity; when in reality she has brought this on herself, by her choice of wrong partner in life.
Her perceived need to look on the brighter side of life.
Her ability to stay positive and stay focused.
Her need for her marriage to be successful at all costs. (Didn't realize that when the marriage book said; when a marriage is about give and take, it might have meant, she would have to give, he would expect to take.... Everything.)
Her constant re-evaluation of life's priorities. She would need to be very flexible; to accommodate his ever changing needs.
Her supposed ability to change course. OK. Accept his weaknesses, his supposed requirement for an extra marital affair. What's next best thing? Maybe try and enjoy some of the enjoyments he is enjoying with the latest "affair"? "How was the movie dear?"
There are so very many women today, and in the past, (and will be I suppose in the future), who have to deal with this precise exact same stuff.
They in their innocence and I expect naievity, have no idea of the dangers of these sorts of men, or of the methods and means by which they are capable.
Allison Baden Clay of Queensland Australia, may yet be able to speak, yet she is dead. She may be able to alert other ladies just like herself, to look out, to be aware, avoid if possible these types; if not, to escape the situation if possible
Realize there can be a new life. Realize that YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
Some women have escaped, have been survivors, and are even now able to post on sites such as this with true understanding and empathy.