Good post and I agree with everything.
NJJohn
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Originally Posted by believe09
thank you for your considered response. I am not looking to bash AJ whatsoever-partying doesnt concern me at all. I think it is really really important to know the victim because it makes it much easier to determine what influences in their lives were driving what behavior. If AJ was being oppressed, abused or influenced by this career criminal for a period of time, I would have expected to see that in some fashion kwim? If WH was spiraling out of control while AJ was an adult or for a shorter period of time, I guess I can understand this a little bit better.
I am still confused about the Zach/AJ situation tbh. Who pushed who out or was it mutual and do we have an understanding of the why?
As for the adoption by Hadsell, it seems to me that AJ would have had some say in this matter. She was a teen although not the age of majority so to speak. If she had objected strenuously, would the judge have permitted her name to stay what it was legally at the time? And she was certainly old enough to jettison the name once she became an adult.
As for Zach and AJ, all we have is Zach's side of the story, which is that JH pushed AJ away from Zach. While I'm sure that is the truth on a certain level, I'm also certain there is much more to this story, but frankly, this is all part of what appears to be long, bitter divorce/custody situation for which any one party's perspective is bound to be incomplete and biased. I think it's better that this subject is left out of this discussion altogether because it is an ongoing legal matter (involving the other daughters) that is not at all related to AJ's disappearance. Zach has commented on this to a certain degree, but, frankly, I think it's best for him not to at all in public, and I'd hate to see him say something in here that ends up being used against him in a custody hearing.
Do you care to elaborate? You have my attention.
I wanted to bring this over from the closed thread so I could speak to the importance of the Zach/AJ dynamic for me. I trust that Zach wont put himself or his custody issues (ongoing?) in danger-he has been open about what he will or will not answer. I am not asking him directly because I was certain the topic had been covered. That being said, he has been candid about his feelings regarding the mother of his two and there is a whole lot on the boards that she might find objectionable. I think, jmo, he has touched on the possibility that she is either covering for AJ's assumed killer or responsible in some way for AJ's death. Just being honest here.
I am working through who is in a position to know the most about AJ both in the past and a contemporary AJ. I am trying to figure out family dynamics and influences.
I have seen speculation regarding AJ and the possibility she was being abused by WH, in fact I have seen speculation that she was pregnant by him. I have seen speculation that she was on the periphery of drug abuse or even the victim of an OD. All of these speculations are because sleuthers are trying to figure out how or why AJ became a crime victim. If she is one...we dont know COD.
If AJ pushed Zach away, what was the reason? Was it the start of some kind of anger/frustration/loss/drug use/abuse?
If JH encouraged AJ to push Zach away, what was the reason? Was JH trying to force a relationship between AJ and WH? Was JH trying to hide evidence of abuse of AJ?
If Zach pushed AJ away, what was that reason? How was her presence in his life detrimental? Was it due to certain behaviors on her part that in retrospect could point to abuse at the hands of someone like WH?
These are just examples of questions to try and sort out how we ended up here today. It is relevant if you believe the origin of this possible crime is obsession, especially if it is obsession of WH for AJ.
