gitana1
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Ok, I know you are all going to disagree with me but I do see this very differently than most.
I've watched Little Miss Perfect and T & T since they came on with the intent to understand Patsy better. I do feel some children (typically the older ones) really enjoy it and have fairly normal parents. We just don't see much of those, that wouldn't make good tv.
I view it not much different than any other child's competitive activity. I can tell you for sure and without a doubt there are just as many psycho dads out there forcing their sons into sports. I've seen it.
The good parents are few. Few are actually using the competition in a constructive and enriching way.
I think Eden Wood's mom is a nut job. I also hope she is saving for her education...I somehow doubt it. I do think Eden is a cute & sweet and and outgoing kid that doesn't deserve some of the comments I read here.
I agree with you about Eden Wood. I would never criticize a child's looks. She's a cute, innocent child and it's not her fault her mother is insane. But as for the rest, I must vehemently disagree (but with respect).
In most competitive activities, there is a skill involved, like an athletic or artistic or intellectual skill. Here, the skill is for toddlers and little girls to wear the make-up and hair of an adult woman on Dynasty, to wear very uncomfortable clothing, sit still in chairs or stand still in lines for hours, and to prance around on stage in front of complete strangers, making sexually suggestive or flirty facial expressions, dance moves and poses, told to "shake it, guuurrrrlll" or "flirt with the judges" "shake that booty", etc. And that's my problem.
These kids are learning nothing that will help them in the future. These are not normal modeling moves or dance moves. The kids' head shots are like scary, horror movie dolls, not like something to send to a casting director. And their outfits and make-up and hairstyles evoke an adult sexuality that is highly inappropriate, IMO, for a child to adopt. They are being taught to parade around, move their bodies, smile and bat their eyelashes at strangers, who are judging them on nothing more than their appearance, and they are forced to endure tons of physical discomfort prior, during and after such "performances". I think that is a major set up for a child to feel that violations of their privacy and bodies, as well as requests for sexual behavior by adults, are normal, okay and sanctioned by mom and dad. I feel it's creating kids who are very susceptible to sexual abuse in the future.
Not to mention that children who spend their childhoods being judged on a wholly unnatural appearance, with fake hair, teeth, fake tans, tons of make-up, etc., grow to be adults who are wholly dissatisfied with their physical appearance:
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Many experts agree that participation in activities that focus on physical appearance at an early age can influence teen and/or adult [URL="http://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/self-esteem"]self-esteem[/URL], body image and self-worth. Issues with self-identity after a child "retires" from the pageant scene in her teens are not uncommon. Struggles with perfection, dieting, [URL="http://www.psychologytoday.com/conditions/eating-disorders"]eating disorders[/URL] and body image can take their toll in adulthood.
"The Princess Syndrome" as I like to call it, is a fairy tale. Unrealistic expectations to be thin, physically beautiful, and perfect are at the heart of some disordered eating behaviors and body dissatisfaction. Scant research has been conducted to see if former pint-sized beauty pageant participants are more likely to suffer from eating disorders, but a small study published in 2005 showed that [B]former [URL="http://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/child-development"]childhood[/URL] beauty pageant contestants had higher rates of body dissatisfaction.[/B]
The child pageant and dance circuits are competitive, demanding and stressful. Watch any reality dance or pageant show and see how children are placed under enormous pressure to perform flawlessly. Tears, tantrums and fits frequently ensue with some adults mocking crying children. As result, child performers may believe that parental and/or adult love or approval are anchored to how perfectly they look or how well they ignite the stage with their presence.
And what does this teach little girls about femininity, about their gender? That what is valued is the ability to be fake? To mimic charm? To flirt? To be pretty? What about their minds? What about true, natural beauty? What about learning a real skill? Getting an excellent education? None of that is a product of child glitz pageants.
I hear many of these parents state that they only do this to help their child's self-esteem or to help them become more outgoing. How about this? Enroll them in a children's theatre group or sports' team. How about spending the thousands they spend on this vapid, sad mess on their child's education instead?
Many parents also state they only do it because their child wants to. Well, my kid may want to do many things. But it's up to the parent to keep them away from things that are detrimental to their well-being.
Yes, some of the parents do not seem kooky on these shows. But IMO, they all participate in these contests for kooky reasons. They are hoping to erase their own feelings of inadequacy, their own failures, their own, mediocrity in looks and life, by putting the kind of make-up and clothing on children that would be more suitable for adults (adult strippers, that is), and hoping, paying, praying, doing all they can to make sure their little darling wins and proves to the world, as I have heard a few of these mothers admit, that they (oh, and their kids) are somebody.
Yeah, there sure are psycho parents in every kids' activity but most of those other activities are not harmful, in and of themselves. Child beauty pageants, especially glitz, IMO, most certainly are. But regardless of the criticism of people like me, I have no doubt that thousands of kids will continue to be subjected this nonsense and help line the coffers of those exploiting children in this billion dollar industry (http://sixtyminutes.ninemsn.com.au/blog.aspx?blogentryid=660479&showcomments=true), prancing on stages in full drag, in front of total strangers, so they can, "Make Mommy (or Daddy) Love You!": [ame="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dPLWKBWkn3s"]Toddlers & Tiaras with Tom Hanks - YouTube[/ame]