:candle: It's getting very dark in here (oh damn I just tripped over my tongue!)...let me shed some light, that's what lamps are for and we are all lamps for someone at some stage of our lives! FF don't leave, please!! You know after doing the foster work, raising my own children and helping with grandchildren, and just living a LONG time on this earth I have learned that we're all just big kids. We all carry hurts and scars, bruises and wounds from the past, sometimes from long ago, and we all try to hide them, "get over them", we're adults now for heavens sake! At least that's what we tell ourselves. This forum is emotive and sometimes very raw when people share their sad stories, and there's many who drift in and out just read and ponder and never post as they have been victims of some horrible crimes in the past and this site is too hard for them, and that's OK. We are ALL learning so much here about each other (and about ourselves!) as we talk about this monster that is the CSK, and for some it's a VERY brave act to even post a message at all, that's how fragile they feel. FF I thank you for having the courage to look back at the posts and examine that it might have been you who offended (I don't know, could have been me or anyone for all I know) and for saying you are truly sorry if you have hurt someone. That's a BIG thing to do, but let me get this, you think you offended someone, so you said sorry, but you're leaving because you are offended that they were offended? Now even I can't follow that, and I wrote it!!! Stay, learn, grow, challenge yourself, that's how we all become better human beings, AND encourage others to be likewise! :loveyou:Here endeth the lesson!!