Not trying to derail the thread at all, but I just saw this article by Rosie Batty (ex Australian of the Year and mother of boy, Luke, murdered (beaten to death) by his father due to mental illness. He was shot dead by police at the scene). She was in court years earlier getting a restraining order when her husband's lawyer said there were other charges her husband had to face in the future. The lawyer then outlined that her husband was accessing online *advertiser censored* of a paedophilic nature which she was totally shocked at (and this lady had already been through hell with this man). She relates how she had lived with him for 20 years and just could not believe that he had done that, in fact she was so shocked she gasped out loud in the courtroom. Just goes to show how things can be hidden completely from a partner for many years and be totally "out of character"!
An excerpt from this article is perhaps how CGE might be feeling at the moment?
In the aftermath, confusion and anger set in. She tried to put pieces of the jigsaw together.
"You think you know the person you're with in the most intimate way, and everything that's good or bad about them, and you just can't reconcile what you did not pick out," she said.
"I had this realisation that so many of the accusatory, disgusting things he said to me over Luke's lifetime, which were so appalling that they didn't even hurt me any more, I thought, 'Oh my god, he's projecting his thoughts on to me'."
http://www.msn.com/en-au/news/austr...sed-her/ar-AAntXdb?li=AAavLaF&ocid=spartandhp