Found Deceased Australia - Elisa Curry, 43, Aireys Inlet, Melbourne, 30 Sept 2017 #2

[Karinna]

I empathise with all who have lost a loved one to suicide. I know a lady who's sister committed suicide and it leaves families with so many unanswered questions and heartache. When people commit suicide they are not thinking in a rational or logical way and sometimes or maybe even in a lot of cases if they are determined they would do that anyway. As far as leaving little ones behind i think of Michael Hutchence and how he adored little Tigerlily, but he still suicided anyway, or Chris Cornell from Audioslave leaving behind his beautiful children. There doesn't seem to be an answer for that but is what happens.
In Elisa's case i hope her family will be able to at least find out where she is located and exactly what happened,

 

[Morrisa]

Thanks. I feel quite purged. Now I think I'll have some quiet time.

'Tis good for the soul

 

[Twist]

JMO but I think "if you're out there" was just an unfortunate way to word "if you're out there seeing this on a tv somewhere".

Not saying DC is involved but either way it is said it is curious as to revel his mind and thinking. DC would know his wife of 14 years and her mindset especially if she has past problems that's could be where he is coming from. He has fears of the worst.

 

[mdcmdc]

Suicide is a hard beast to " pigeon hole" everyone is different........

Many people threaten suicide or have suicidal thoughts, but never have a plan & don't act on those thoughts.

Others never talk about their thoughts & sadly often suicide with no one knowing the turmoil that their loved one was enduring.

From experience, the ones who are screaming from the rafters most days that they want to kill themselves, rarely do. ( still have to take there threats seriously, even when they land in our ED multiple times each week :gaah: )

And from my experience, most do not leave a suicide note. Out of all the sucessfull suicides I've seen thru my work , I think I've only read 2 suicide notes...........

Many suicides are impulsive & not premeditated. An example was a guy we had who had an argument with his wife & then promptly went down to the back shed & tried to suicide by chainsaw to the neck.........he had very critical injuries but did survive. He had no mental health history & could not explain his actions........

People suicide all the time, with no clues as to why.

Great example is this foundation http://uhwheretheresawill.com.au/ ( who are doing AMAZING things in educating the community in mental health first aid, from school age kids to grandparents ) after their son suicided on xmas day a few years ago with no warming signs........

It's all so sad :-(

A chainsaw - the poor man must have been so distressed to even contemplate doing something like that.

 

[Trooper]

I still do not believe that this is suicide. In my view, either a dreadful accident whilst walking on the Sunday morning, or foul play during the night. MOO

I find it hard to believe also, KG.. what does rattle me is no one, not her family, even cousins, or neighbors at either end, or friends, school mums, runners, business colleagues, but absolutely NO ONE AT ALL has said , nooo.. no way.. no how.. no one has disagreed with the status quo.. it seems this is the only place where at least some die hard doubters , like me, ridiculously forge on , refusing to accept the entire concept, in the face of a plethora of anecdotal experiences, terrible experiences, ...

I am as baffled now as I was last Sunday.

 

[Lotus09]

Just thinking that this may have been the first day for a long time that she has been by herself. Whether it be foul play or suicide??

 

[SouthAussie]

I will be interested to see if this case will be turned over to the Missing Persons Unit. Or if they are just going to allow it to fade away under the LAC. I was hoping that when we heard they were going to investigate potential financial issues and marriage issues that we would hear that Missing Persons Unit name come up, or some other specialised division.

 

[Karinna]

I have read a bit on here about the case, and recall reading there are 11 other people missing from the area? but Elisa's has the media attention? What happened to those other people and that's a lot of people to be missing. Is it a high crime area or something? If it is it could mean EC had met with foul play.

 

[vanburger]

I think the 11 other people were from Victoria not necessarily that area.

 

[Karinna]

I think the 11 other people were from Victoria not necessarily that area.

Oh ok. thanks for clarifying. How far is Melbourne from there? I also find the way the dog was acting says something about what could of happened as well. Maybe someone along the way grabbed EC and did whatever to her and perhaps threw her into the ocean rather than EC committed suicide?

 

[Lotus09]

So she had just one brother and was she having issues with inheritance? Did I read that somewhere?

 

[Constableno1]

:wagon:..... excellent points, Twist.....this one -----> Why did he say "if" in his statement "Elisa, if you are out there, can you please contact us" if she is not out there where is she, what is DC thinking ? has had me nagging my dog for days about.. . Why. Mango.. WHY.. IF she is out there.. well.. you know.. it's obvious she cant be seen inside the house.. so...but, he himself seems doubtful that she is out there. I hope they dig up that house and grounds this week. .

If she is out there listening to this media statement he is making. It's fairly common for people to make that comment in a media broadcast to someone.

 

[suspicious]

IMO there is only foul play.
- LE have said they aren't ruling anything out.
- DC has not been out doing what he can to find his wife (Tom meagher to this day is still a massive advocate for the public safety of everyone) edited to remove work comment.

Yes his kids would be devastated, but they would want their mum back. That should be his priority.

IMO LE are going down the suicide route to put whoever off.

I'd put a lot of money on it that someone is responsible for EC being missing.




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[*Verdigris]

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(Very respectfully snipped by me)
Dear tiddles, when someone writes something like that, I'm not sure if I should reply (and bring it up all over again) or just quietly click the thank you button.
But this was so powerful, I decided to thank you for this in writing, but not to include the text.
My deepest condolences for yours and your family's horrific loss.
I, and I think many of us here, truly do appreciate these personal stories; as it shows - once again - that there may never be a way to 'make sense' out of a suicide.
I wish you continued healing. :grouphug:

 

[Lotus09]

Where does it say he has gone back to work?

 

[*Verdigris]

Suicide is a hard beast to " pigeon hole" everyone is different........

Many people threaten suicide or have suicidal thoughts, but never have a plan & don't act on those thoughts.

Others never talk about their thoughts & sadly often suicide with no one knowing the turmoil that their loved one was enduring.

From experience, the ones who are screaming from the rafters most days that they want to kill themselves, rarely do. ( still have to take there threats seriously, even when they land in our ED multiple times each week :gaah: )

And from my experience, most do not leave a suicide note. Out of all the sucessfull suicides I've seen thru my work , I think I've only read 2 suicide notes...........

Many suicides are impulsive & not premeditated. An example was a guy we had who had an argument with his wife & then promptly went down to the back shed & tried to suicide by chainsaw to the neck.........he had very critical injuries but did survive. He had no mental health history & could not explain his actions........

People suicide all the time, with no clues as to why.

Great example is this foundation http://uhwheretheresawill.com.au/ ( who are doing AMAZING things in educating the community in mental health first aid, from school age kids to grandparents ) after their son suicided on xmas day a few years ago with no warming signs........

It's all so sad :-(

Excellent post. (And I am including the text, as it deserves a repeat. )

 

[suspicious]

Where does it say he has gone back to work?

I have read it but cannot find anything in Msm so have removed my comment


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[Wendy8888]

yes... Xmas Day... Mothers Day... even Fathers Day..... I am only speculating... I honestly don't know the mechanics of how this is done... choosing a day, the day choosing you, how to do it, when to do it, one method over another, one time as opposed to another time, and whether any of this has any significance whatsoever, it may very well not be a factor at all. Maybe all of it is random with no engagement of the thought process along this trail at all.

it just struck me, that it was a Significant Day. ( I'm from Sydney, a cricket fan, not football, but the last day of an Ashes Test would be highly highly significant to me, and just about everyone I know ) ..

For her family, her husband, even her neighbors who gathered together to engage in a social tribal event, the arrangements for getting together, in the subconscious tribal way, complete with costume and artifacts determining factions and loyalties would have been discussed and resolved quite a bit, the team components, the odds for and against, the astounding revival of Richmond Club.. all this stuff, that is a background to daily life leading up to the day.... She would be aware of this... everyone would be, not just Elisa, ...

and to return to my theme of the day being chosen for effect, that goes just as well as for her killer, should that turn out to be the case.. Farquarson wanted his wife to always be deeply bereft and deserted on this day for the rest of her life.. a revenge outcome.... so. I just wondered....

That’s quite possible actually... that last little dig at him. That you’ll show you type of thing. My hubby did his deed 2 days before our sons 4th birthday, the last “you won’t forget” type of thing.


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[Seabreeze1]

IMO there is only foul play.
- LE have said they aren't ruling anything out.
- DC has not been out doing what he can to find his wife (Tom meagher to this day is still a massive advocate for the public safety of everyone) edited to remove work comment.

Yes his kids would be devastated, but they would want their mum back. That should be his priority.

IMO LE are going down the suicide route to put whoever off.

I'd put a lot of money on it that someone is responsible for EC being missing.




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I don't think that SC husband not being more involved is alarming. They have three kids who are more than likely going through hell. I would also say DC may have had his fair share of rough times if what had been said about SC having issues is correct. I for one wouldn't want to find my partners body if I suspected he had committed suicide.

 

[Seabreeze1]

IMO there is only foul play.
- LE have said they aren't ruling anything out.
- DC has not been out doing what he can to find his wife (Tom meagher to this day is still a massive advocate for the public safety of everyone) edited to remove work comment.

Yes his kids would be devastated, but they would want their mum back. That should be his priority.

IMO LE are going down the suicide route to put whoever off.

I'd put a lot of money on it that someone is responsible for EC being missing.




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I don't think that EC husband not being more involved is alarming. They have three kids who are more than likely going through hell. I would also say DC may have had his fair share of rough times if what had been said about EC having issues is correct. I for one wouldn't want to find my partners body if I suspected he had committed suicide.