Did your friend manage escape successfully and absolutely?
Does he remain in any form a lethal obsession? Or is he goneski? The relationship kaput, finished, no more, dead and buried?
And is it too early to ask if she has found her SELF again? And maybe even a proper meaningful relationship with a normal person?
The toxic individual, who shall remain nameless is gone.
She got clean.... they were still in touch. He had no respect for that because along with money, drugs were a form of control. There were a few slipups along the way, and then she was able to see that him supplying her wasn't "love" - it was desperation to hold on.
She got a bit of her "own" back, by assisting some staff members to leave him - which angered him enough to cut off completely (after a tirade of abusive messages) but not enough to be harmed. Now that I'm looking back, I see just how risky that was at the time.....
She's not the same as she was...... but I think that we all change through experiences. She's stronger. Hasnt had a "good" relationship as yet, but spots similar patterns and personalities and steers clear.
There is a lot of self-image and self worth tied up there, because she is breathtakingly beautiful in an exotic eurasian way - and doesnt see her other attributes as being as great as they are. She has always had far more than beauty going for her, but has never been able to see it.
But she is free. She went back to school this year - doing a bridging course to get into university. I think it will be great for her - to be hanging out with a younger crowd, and doing the fun - silly things like unigames etc that these years robbed her of. She has actually done fantastically in the bridging course..... she's always labelled herself as being dumb, or a ditz, but you should have seen her face when she got a High Distinction for a literature assignment.
So hopefully all of that will start to let her know that she doesnt need to be defined by any single thing, that she can choose who she wants to be.