Estelle
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I know everyone says they think if their spouse went missing "they'd be out looking" but really - would you? I doubt the police would actually want that - because it probably wouldn't be helpful at all. It might make you feel better (maybe - debatable) but to what end? They're the ones with the resources and the intelligence [in the law enforcement sense of the word] to do the searching. How much use would physically searching be, as one individual, especially when looking for an adult that has been gone for a while now? Probably next to zero.
This isn't particularly relevant to this case but generally speaking: as the mother of young kids I would want my partner to be home with them and worrying about them and their needs and also working of course to ensure all material needs of the family were met - not worrying about me - I would think it was 100% the responsibility of the police to "find" me and to investigate the case, not anyone else.
IMO I would not have waited from Sunday to Tuesday to report that my spouse was missing.
If I was retired, I would spend all my time in the early days searching and asking people if they had seen her. Not after two weeks perhaps - only early on.
I was looking after my daughter's dog once while she was overseas, and I could not find it so I searched the neighbourhood for two hours asking everyone I then went home to check if he had found his way home and I found him hiding under a bed. Otherwise I would have continued searching.
What did he do between Sunday and the Tuesday?
Was he out searching then or was he cleaning up evidence or getting his story straight or even plucking up courage to tell the police, his sons and her employer? Often the reason why people do not search is because they already know where that person is.