Another common issue in this triad of family components is that both side--foster and birth---may tend to see things differently and even in a distorted way.
These interactions are very emotionally charged and the BF may have thought or felt that she was interfering, jumping in etc, from his POV. But maybe from her point of view, she was waiting for pick up, was walking to the meeting place and saw them as it was ending? We don't know how it really went down.
His version doesn't make much sense to me if it is true that TWO supervisors were there to monitor the visit. How would they let her pop in and interfere if there are two workers in charge?
as an example of differing points of view during visitation---
when our daughter was just about to turn one, we invited her birth father to meet up at the beach for the 4th of July. It was a beautiful hot day and we all had a good time, as far as I knew..
A few days later our social worker told me that he had reported to her that he felt that we were 'worried' about her skin getting darker because I kept putting sun block on her at the beach...He thought it was disrespectful of us to worry about if she got more tan or not...
Ok, our daughter is half Jamaican and half Swedish. He , being Jamaican, had no idea that someone might need to put lotion on an 11 month old child, on a very hot beach day. Although she does have darker skin than many babies, she is also half Swedish, and she does burn.
So from his point of view, we were acting one way that he saw as being disrespectful. But it was not at all what my actions were about. I didn't want her to be sun burned as she had never been in a swim suit under the hot sun before that day.
So I have to take the BF's complaint with a slight grain of salt. Did it really happen in the exact way he felt it did?