Cazzie
This is love
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Thank you so much for your personal story! I'm sorry that your father turned his back; that must have hurt tremendously.bbm its true, Cazzie, many adults act very childish when they sense that something is going to be "taken away" from them. for example, i was raised by my mom and step dad. when i was 30 i was finally able to locate my bio father. wasn't looking for a dad, i had a dad, but i wanted an answer as to how a seemingly upstanding family man can have a child he knows about and never ever want to see that child. before he could answer me he ask for a dna test. i was 30 and not asking for anything from him except an answer. after the dna came back 99.99999999999999999999999999999% positive that he was my father, he turned his back and never spoke to me again. the reason? i have a half sister who had a very violent and angry reaction to the fact that she had a sister. the reaction was not directed at the parents who lied and kept the secret all these years, but at me who only wanted an answer. that was many years ago and instead of fueling the fire and causing problems in their family (my family?) i gave up. i guess i had all the answers i needed anyway. after that experience i am never surprised at grown people behaving like children. Bob's daughters were so worried that they were going to lose something. they had no regard for their fathers happiness. if they loved him, they would have been thrilled that he have a loving companion in his golden years. instead, it seems, somebody thought poor Bob had lived long enough. i guess they thought he had enough happiness. it makes me sick to think about.
Maybe you read between my lines, as my father died when I was young and my mother remarried a family friend that I couldn't stand. It took many years for me to come to terms with it. Not saying that I was an angel child or teenager (LOL), but I never tried to cause him any harm!
Why couldn't Bob's kids have just turned their backs? At the very least, they've thought they were entitled to everything of their mother's and father's and done everything to ensure that they got it, even though Bob remarried a long lost love. Don't Bob and Fontelle have rights to whatever of Bob's assets he wanted to keep and leave for Fontelle? Rhetorically, yes!
It makes me sick, too. Perhaps Lady Justice will tip the scales in Bob's and Fontelle's favor soon.