Lilibet
Southern Oregon
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I am a newbie but think this is a hard balance. With the sister stating that OG was going to end the relationship, and no sign of BF at the crash site, it is reasonable to question things in a delicate and respectful way. We know many women are victims (statistically) of their husband, boyfriend, significant other, etc., so it natural to want to speak up about that possibility and not sweep it under the rug. It is hard to know where that line is but it is so sad that both of these young lives with their canine friends left this earth way too early.
You raise some good points, MichJustice. It is a very hard balance. The statistics are real. When a relationship is troubled, and boyfriend is missing, of course our minds go there. But while it may be natural to want to speak of these things, that's not how it works on victim friendly WS. We can think whatever we want, but we view all parties (including family) as victims until the police say they're not. That's where the line is drawn.
It's not really sweeping an important topic under the rug. It's being compassionate so that our words (that last a long time on the internet) aren't hurtful. I think most of us have crossed that line a time or two (I certainly have) and the mods reel us in and remind us that WS is victim friendly. That commitment to the victims is what makes WS a site that is fair and puts people above sleuthing. I hope that makes sense.
And yes, it is especially sad when young people and their pets have their lives cut short. It's awful that this ended so badly.