Let's see.... Linebacker looking...Jen was on a boys' team....Jen hit hard....Jen stood in for a "husband".
I'm not sure what you're getting at, but as far as I can tell, JH is a woman and she has a wife.
Many women hit hard, played on boys' teams, loved to be tomboys. This doesn't make them manly or husband-like.
I'm not sure what that means. There are no "husbands" within lesbian couples. That's an old, unfortunate and super heteronormative stereotype. Lesbian couples are comprised of two women who are attracted to each other in part because they're both women. Not because one is a pale approximation of a man.
That stereotype presupposes that being a woman in a relationship with a woman doesn't work unless one of the women takes on the role of a man. I can tell you that's utter nonsense.
These are all really good and important points. And, my 50's upbringing is engrained, and not necessarily up to date...
Of course as in all partnerships there are exchanges and balances of energy. Tough parent, soft parent. Dominant, passive. Stereotypes of male, female. Abusive, enabling. This list goes on.
Jen strikes me as the dominant partner, the main aggressor with her children, her aggressive 'my way or the highway' language in some of her postings, her control of the narrative. Sarah took the hit in the abuse conviction, seemed to acquiesce to Jen's need to wanderlust with the kids, Sarah maintained the home-front while they were gone...
Most of us are children of well defined stereotypes, even though those parameters are changing in our modern world.
And, forgive me for not being more clear on this as I have gay married friends some of whom reveal a more traditional structure of roles, and others where the energy is much more nuanced.
So who were Jen and Sarah? When they got married, they might have liked Jen's last name better, simple as that? We read a lot about their crimes as parents but not much about their partnership which was long lasting by so many measures.
We hear they were madly in love in college, forging love in an uncertain acceptance landscape in America, traveling to a state they probably never visited before to commit to marriage.
So, back to energy, the OP pointed out the aggressive high five of Jen to Sarah at the Sanders rally with the sparrow. There are, of course, the wild women at sports games, and the tough women in life, in every male dominated field, that dosen't diminish their womanhood. But also, not every tomboy makes it onto male sports teams. It takes a certain physicality and drive to accomplish that. Imo
As I think about it this morning, it is perhaps the sum total of dominance and passivity that I might be seeing? And that energy has a stereotypical lens.
It could very well be Sarah was the controlling force, the breadwinner, the one who felt she had the power, and Jen's aggression was a replay out of a feeling of oppression?
Dynamics, roles exist in all relationships regardless of sex. Perhaps there is a clue in how Devonte responded to power, both in his knowledge of being the golden child, and in his desperation to be the man, to save his siblings? He was 15 years old. Who was he going up against, what kind of energy was he going up against?
I believe the FBI was brought in to help with profiling because it is just out of the scope of Mendocino county's capabilities.
All jmo