Zuckerschnecke
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I'm hesitant to post anything after the somewhat not so friendly reason for having one of my posts snipped. I had merely said parents should not engage in battle by means of fighting for support and using the court as the way of perpetrating hurt on the other parent. Didn't say any parents in particular, but in general. Oh well. Maybe the rules changed now.
It's very easy to compartmentalize things in a way that make it for so there is some 'sense' for this senseless crime. IMO, okay mods, IMO only, this is not cut and dry or a one reason validation. This kid could have had some emotional issues that maybe were or were not being addressed and I think it's very possible the parents, with all the drama that seemed to be going on in their lives, may have missed the signals. Blame them? Who am I to judge. I have a complicated life myself so that I would not do. The kid certainly should have been old enough to know right from wrong. Who failed? Was he born defective? Was it a combination of things? It's very very compex, and while I think the parents might be most guilty of DENIAL, can they be held accountable for other things such as neglect? I think this type of thing can happen to the best families, people and without knowing his motive - heck, he does not know what a motive IS, it's not easy to pin the blame on any one thing. Likely, this will turn out to be a combination of the kid being upset about something, having his own 12 year old justification, parents worried about their ongoing problems, kid not feeling 'heard' or feeling worthwhile. I can see how this is gonna play out and it's very very 'gray'.
It's very easy to compartmentalize things in a way that make it for so there is some 'sense' for this senseless crime. IMO, okay mods, IMO only, this is not cut and dry or a one reason validation. This kid could have had some emotional issues that maybe were or were not being addressed and I think it's very possible the parents, with all the drama that seemed to be going on in their lives, may have missed the signals. Blame them? Who am I to judge. I have a complicated life myself so that I would not do. The kid certainly should have been old enough to know right from wrong. Who failed? Was he born defective? Was it a combination of things? It's very very compex, and while I think the parents might be most guilty of DENIAL, can they be held accountable for other things such as neglect? I think this type of thing can happen to the best families, people and without knowing his motive - heck, he does not know what a motive IS, it's not easy to pin the blame on any one thing. Likely, this will turn out to be a combination of the kid being upset about something, having his own 12 year old justification, parents worried about their ongoing problems, kid not feeling 'heard' or feeling worthwhile. I can see how this is gonna play out and it's very very 'gray'.