CA CA - Maya Millete, 39, missed daughter's birthday, Chula Vista, 7 Jan 2021

[rosesfromangels]

Her sister said she has daily goals, and tracks her hikes with (I'm assuming) a smart watch (or maybe an app on her phone). She said it's not like her to miss her daily goals. It's out of character for her to be "off" all day, and I think she means not connected to her activity app.

(I do this on my Apple watch, and do not want to miss a day of not fulfilling the goals because I will go back to zero. You track your activity by days, then months, then years. If she was in a long habit of tracking, seems more unlikely that she went off to taste wine.)

Brother in law and sis are sticking by the husband for now, but letting LE do their job.

Her husband has said she is a big drinker, but her sister does not agree, and said she occasionally will go out with the girls, or go wine-tasting, but she has 3 kids, so it's not often, and not every weekend. It might have happened once or twice, but not frequently.

Moo.

Thank you for posting this video; very helpful.
The brother-in-law refers to her in the past tense multiple times. : (
This couple was well spoken and thoughtful in their remarks. It's clear they are a close knit family.

It didn't click until now that the missing Subject and her hubby have been married for 21 years! I'm not sure why exactly, but that gives me a slightly different perspective on this case.
The sister also emphasized that if her sister went off hiking, she would have been posting pictures to FB, which was her usual practice. With that revelation, I can only conclude she took a ride with someone, and it ended in foul play. Of course *who* that was, is the question.

It looks like Chula Vista upgraded their traffic cams. They should be able to determine if any of the family cars were seen coming or going from the home if they are close to major intersections that are 'cammed.
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Business cams will be helpful too, if they are nearby

Amateur opinion and speculation

 

[Mitch1]

It almost seems like she was having a mid life crisis. Hoping she is found soon, how far could she actually have been taken. If she was hiking and someone grabbed her I can’t imagine that someone took her kicking and screaming all the way out of the park and would have likely left her out there and if she didn’t go for a hike (what I am thinking) I can’t imagine there was much time to take her that far and come back?

 

[Elhe]

It almost seems like she was having a mid life crisis. Hoping she is found soon, how far could she actually have been taken. If she was hiking and someone grabbed her I can’t imagine that someone took her kicking and screaming all the way out of the park and would have likely left her out there and if she didn’t go for a hike (what I am thinking) I can’t imagine there was much time to take her that far and come back?

If it is a midlife crisis of sorts, I can understand. I was with a man all through my twenties and early 30s that shaped so much of how I thought, how I felt things, how I thought I wanted my future to go based on decisions I made too early (like not having kids). It was only after my sister had kids that I started to realize that, while the relationship was great and we had a good history, it just wasn't enough for what I wanted and now I'm near forty, I'm scared I may never have a child. I wonder if it was like that for Maya having been in a relationship her whole adult life. For me, it explains a lot of why she needed space and I understand that completely. Or maybe she just wasn't happy in her relationship. I hate speculating, but in cases like this it's almost inevitable.

 

[Curious Me]

I can’t imagine there was much time to take her that far and come back?

Are you talking about an abductor or possibly her husband? Don't know her specific neighborhood, but I have local knowledge of the San Diego & Chula Vista area -- MOO, there's plenty of places to leave a body, and there's even reservoirs and water spots quite nearby say even in Spring Valley. I'd say two hours would be plenty of time. Just my own opinion.

A mid-life crisis? Do you think she really ran off and not showing up for her beloved daughter's birthday and worrying her family? That may be what you've been led to believe, but I don't think she'd do that. She was a determined, strong woman with solid goals and she loved her children.

 

[Curious Me]

Granted, keeping an open mind, there's still the slight possibility she was upset from their fight and she left the house to walk down in the canyon behind their house, and towards the park alone at night. LM never said what time the fight was or much about after the fight.

One type of nighttime crime I hear on the local news often is the vandalizing of Chula Vista parks and sports sites with the sports equipment often stolen and things destroyed. I've also seen the senseless act to gouge the park lawns. Why am I telling you this? There may be some nasty people in the parks late at night.

Would Maya do that? Slam out of the house to walk alone at night? MOO, I don't think so. She had a locked bedroom to retreat to and she had two vehicles in the driveway to use to drive away in. Back to leaning on LM to supply more info about exactly what happened after that fight? All MOO and thoughts.

 

[Elhe]

According to the new donation account the family set up, the last communication from Maya was at 7:52pm on the 7th, her phone has been off and they haven't been able to locate it. My first thought was she left with it...but why would she leave it off? Or did they just realize it was off the next day? Did she take it and run out of battery? I don't know about the husband, if he hurt her and left her somewhere why would he bring her phone? I'm sure they tried to ping the last location, maybe they just haven't released certain information to the public.

Also states the vehicles were at the home since she's been missing, and they consider her being missing as of the 9th, but there is so much that could've happened from 7:42pm until the police were called.

The family set up the in hopes of hiring a private investigator and to help pay for expenses in the search. EDIT: link deleted, I didn't realize I couldn't post a link.

 

[PayrollNerd]

I also heard that Maya & Larry are Filipinos. I don't know much about their culture, but if you do a Google search it seems that divorce is banned in the Philippines! Perhaps they did not want to divorce since it's frowned upon in their culture?

This is a valid point. I hired a Filipino lady years ago. Even without directly saying it, I am certain she was in a miserable marriage. I’m nearly 100% positive she was a mail order bride. But she was stoic when he was around. It was all about perception. JMO

 

[Mitch1]

If it is a midlife crisis of sorts, I can understand. I was with a man all through my twenties and early 30s that shaped so much of how I thought, how I felt things, how I thought I wanted my future to go based on decisions I made too early (like not having kids). It was only after my sister had kids that I started to realize that, while the relationship was great and we had a good history, it just wasn't enough for what I wanted and now I'm near forty, I'm scared I may never have a child. I wonder if it was like that for Maya having been in a relationship her whole adult life. For me, it explains a lot of why she needed space and I understand that completely. Or maybe she just wasn't happy in her relationship. I hate speculating, but in cases like this it's almost inevitable.

Couldn’t agree more-I cant imagine being married to my high school sweetheart now as I am a completely different person than I was when I was 18. I am sorry you feel you may have missed out on having kids and have a very close relative that is going through the same thing-currrently looking into getting eggs frozen.

 

[Mitch1]

Are you talking about an abductor or possibly her husband? Don't know her specific neighborhood, but I have local knowledge of the San Diego & Chula Vista area -- MOO, there's plenty of places to leave a body, and there's even reservoirs and water spots quite nearby say even in Spring Valley. I'd say two hours would be plenty of time. Just my own opinion.

A mid-life crisis? Do you think she really ran off and not showing up for her beloved daughter's birthday and worrying her family? That may be what you've been led to believe, but I don't think she'd do that. She was a determined, strong woman with solid goals and she loved her children.

I imagine there are plenty of places to hide her body out there, my thought was more along the lines of her being pretty close by is all.
Mid life crisis-No, I definitely don’t think it was an abandon your family or even miss your daughters birthday kind of crisis-I was talking about her sudden want of freedom from the husband, going out jeeping and wine tasting/outings with friends. It has a mid life crisis feel IMO. Not a bad thing either seeing she has been with him for 21 years and people go through changes

 

[Curious Me]

I was talking about her sudden want of freedom from the husband, going out jeeping and wine tasting/outings with friends. It has a mid life crisis feel IMO.

I do respect your thoughts and opinions. Husband helped us all see Maya in a certain light. Our perception was painted somewhat by the husband's interview, but maybe she was always adventurous and independent. Many married women go places and want to be their own person within the marriage. He made it sound so wrong.

However, I've also considered that he may have done something to change her feelings for him. Perhaps he hurt her deeply or let her down in some way. Or maybe he never wanted to do anything fun. We don't know what she'd say if he was the one missing.

All I know is he didn't paint her in the most loving way, and she's missing after their argument. Either she ran off , or that argument got more ugly than he's saying.

All my own thoughts and MOO.

 

[samsmom]

It almost seems like she was having a mid life crisis. Hoping she is found soon, how far could she actually have been taken. If she was hiking and someone grabbed her I can’t imagine that someone took her kicking and screaming all the way out of the park and would have likely left her out there and if she didn’t go for a hike (what I am thinking) I can’t imagine there was much time to take her that far and come back?

my thoughts exacting about the midlife crisis. Hopefully that’s what it is and she will be back soon.

 

[Curious Me]

MOO, it doesn't matter if Maya was going out, partying, wine tasting, having a midlife crisis, whatever. This is about her missing and if someone harmed her. She could be gone and not be found for years, and some will think she ran off and deserted her kids. That's what people thought when Elizabeth Sullivan went missing in San Diego in 2014.

This case reminds me so much of that San Diego case. I followed it extensively. Elizabeth Sullivan went missing in 2014. Husband said she often was out partying all night long, etc., They had two little girls. He gave a People magazine interview and he was just sick with worry, couldn't eat or think, when she went missing.

Two years later, just as he leaves town with his new woman, they find Elizabeth's body floating in the bay. It hadn't been in the water long. It had been placed there more recently. Check the freezers.

In that case, investigators missed blood under the floorboards. When LE went back year later, there was a murder weapon knife hidden in the attic with other evidence. For two years people thought Elizabeth chose to leave. Sometimes we can be misled.

Navy sailor stabbed his 'cheating' wife to death and hid her body in his home for two years guilty | Daily Mail Online

Husband found guilty of killing wife, dumping body in bay 2 years later - The San Diego Union-Tribune

 

[Elhe]

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This is a valid point. I hired a Filipino lady years ago. Even without directly saying it, I am certain she was in a miserable marriage. I’m nearly 100% positive she was a mail order bride. But she was stoic when he was around. It was all about perception. JMO

I understood what you meant, being Filipino, I’m well-versed in the culture. I was born and raised in LA, but my parents came from Manila right after college.

It is very common for Filipinos to stay in unhappy, even abusive, marriages. It is different now, though, for my generation (I am also 39), who grew up in the U.S. Like I said earlier, the Philippines is a very confusing, contrary, and conservative country, the culture is strange even to me, being Filipino.

I believe a lot of Filipino men, even American born, can be (and are) still very traditional. From Larry’s phone interview, he mentioned training for a hike or some multi-day events before they had kids, but didn’t say anything about him still doing that stuff after kids, so maybe his conservative side clashed with her independent side. It’s possible he expected that she would put those interests aside and that her priority, at least according to him, was the children and the family. I know many Filipino men who are perfectly happy having independent wives, but I also know many who prefer, or expect, the independence to cease, in a sense, once they get married or have kids. That, though, is like any other culture, I think. Ultimately, that could be why they drifted apart, she’s free-spirited and had no reason to believe having kids should stop her from doing the things she enjoyed.

 

[Elhe]

MOO, it doesn't matter if Maya was going out, partying, wine tasting, having a midlife crisis, whatever. This is about her missing and if someone harmed her. She could be gone and not be found for years, and some will think she ran off and deserted her kids. That's what people thought when Elizabeth Sullivan went missing in San Diego in 2014.

This case reminds me so much of that San Diego case. I followed it extensively. Elizabeth Sullivan went missing in 2014. Husband said she often was out partying all night long, etc., They had two little girls. He gave a People magazine interview and he was just sick with worry, couldn't eat or think, when she went missing.

Two years later, just as he leaves town with his new woman, they find Elizabeth's body floating in the bay. It hadn't been in the water long. It had been placed there more recently. Check the freezers.

In that case, investigators missed blood under the floorboards. There was a murder weapon knife hidden in the attic with other evidence. For two years people thought Elizabeth chose to leave. Sometimes we can be misled.

Navy sailor stabbed his 'cheating' wife to death and hid her body in his home for two years guilty | Daily Mail Online

Husband found guilty of killing wife, dumping body in bay 2 years later - The San Diego Union-Tribune

I do hope the police are not closing the door on any possibility. Even if Larry is cooperating, even if there’s no evidence of crime, I hope they investigate the possibility. It would be foolish of them not to, right?

The Court Tv interview was sad, it doesn’t seem like the family knows anything. They said they can’t say much but they’re losing hope. The sister is barely keeping it together, and I know someone has to be the face for Maya, I just wish there was something. They couldn’t, or wouldn’t, be specific on why they can’t locate her phone. Sister says, “Larry said...” and I wonder if she doesn’t fully trust him right now.

I get that they can’t always release details during an investigation, but if there was evidence of a crime (abduction or even murder), and Larry isn’t their suspect, then that is a community safety issue. As they’re not saying anything, I wonder if they think she just took off and are not investigating otherwise.

 

[JakeB911]

Have no idea what ethnicity has to do with her being missing or who the suspect is. I’m really trying to follow.

but in case you didn’t catch that portion of the video. Although the sister is supportive of Larry, the husband refrained from sharing his thoughts on how Larry feels and immediately said will leave it up to the police to point fingers and decide. Sounds like he was coached to say that.

Sure, the sister is being optimistic that Larry is being truthful, but it was clearly evident the husband and likely other family members don’t trust Larry. A normal person would have responded and said, “Larry is feeling terrible. We hope he’s doing ok. We can’t imagine what he could be going through.”

instead. Don’t know how he feels. Let the police decide. Ouch.

 

[Elhe]

Have no idea what ethnicity has to do with her being missing or who the suspect is. I’m really trying to follow.

but in case you didn’t catch that portion of the video. Although the sister is supportive of Larry, the husband refrained from sharing his thoughts on how Larry feels and immediately said will leave it up to the police to point fingers and decide. Sounds like he was coached to say that.

Sure, the sister is being optimistic that Larry is being truthful, but it was clearly evident the husband and likely other family members don’t trust Larry. A normal person would have responded and said, “Larry is feeling terrible. We hope he’s doing ok. We can’t imagine what he could be going through.”

instead. Don’t know how he feels. Let the police decide. Ouch.

Culture can have a lot to do with behavior, at least that’s how I took the conversation. Filipinos are BIG on family, even extended family. You’re there for family no matter what, you support family no matter what, your family comes first always. Traditional (conservative) Filipino culture could be why Maya’s sister says she stands by Larry, it could be why Maya and Larry fought.

 

[Curious Me]

I do hope the police are not closing the door on any possibility. Even if Larry is cooperating, even if there’s no evidence of crime, I hope they investigate the possibility. It would be foolish of them not to, right?

The Court Tv interview was sad, it doesn’t seem like the family knows anything. They said they can’t say much but they’re losing hope. The sister is barely keeping it together, and I know someone has to be the face for Maya, I just wish there was something. They couldn’t, or wouldn’t, be specific on why they can’t locate her phone. Sister says, “Larry said...” and I wonder if she doesn’t fully trust him right now.

I get that they can’t always release details during an investigation, but if there was evidence of a crime (abduction or even murder), and Larry isn’t their suspect, then that is a community safety issue. As they’re not saying anything, I wonder if they think she just took off and are not investigating otherwise.

Great post. I can see you're considering all angles. LE better be doing a thorough investigation. People made suspicious comments even on the family's FB page. There are some Red Flags. We have to accept the possibility that Maya met with foul play of some kind from someone. Oh yes, I am so worried this will break her family's hearts if she is found deceased. I want so much for her to be found safe.

Here's how I saw that Court TV interview and I've heard them on the local news--
Everytime Maya's sister and brother in law have been asked about Maya's husband, I've noticed, they try to stay on the fence, but that's when they always start saying "let LE do their job". They've also said there were Red Flags that LE is investigating. I get the feeling they want to say more, but... Can't accuse anybody of anything with nothing to go on. MOO, hearing there was an argument just before she went missing doesn't help, they might suspect him, but they're in an awkward position not knowing if Maya is dead or alive.

It is up to LE to investigate this further. It's a shame families often have to come up with money to hire their own PI.

I'm sure as time goes by, it's harder not knowing where Maya went, not having answers, especially for her children.

 

[Sillybilly]

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Folks, seriously ... to refer to the fact that divorce is illegal in a certain country is not being culturally or ethnically insensitive. It's just a fact that could possibly be taken into consideration in discussing or theorizing about the case.

This is a crime sleuthing forum. Let's not take PC so far that pretty soon we won't be able to talk about anything.

 

[Lusitana]

From the way he portrayed her and their relationship, I can’t see her caring enough about anything her husband said to just leave and not contact her children. This is not a mid-life crisis.

Leaving her husband? Sure. Leaving her kids? Highly doubt it if she was still living with her husband and not sharing a room. She was doing it for the kids. Why leave them?

 

[Acorunadepor]

From the way he portrayed her and their relationship, I can’t see her caring enough about anything her husband said to just leave and not contact her children. This is not a mid-life crisis.

Leaving her husband? Sure. Leaving her kids? Highly doubt it if she was still living with her husband and not sharing a room. She was doing it for the kids. Why leave them?

Absolutely agree.

For them to still live in the same house albeit separated, is a testimony that the both of them at least have it in for the kids.

What confuses people I think is the description of the husband about her possible whereabouts. That makes it sound like he does not know what exactly she does on a daily basis. That is something people IMO find hard to believe.