Again, Right or Wrong it was BS decision. IMO he was a giver and was well aware that he was a giver, but if you want to kick the gift giver in the groin and still expect to receive, I am not sure what to characterize that as, not an intelligent move?
This makes me think of a situation my mother had with us 3 children stuck on the QEW headed into Toronto in an old gremlin. We 3 kids in the back seat hot and bothered fighting, hitting and yelling at each other as Mom tried to get through traffic to pick up her university diploma for Political Science. In her frustration as we would not listen she warned if we did not stop we would have no Christmas presents. We ignored her and she had no other choice but to follow through on her warning. We did not receive any gifts from our parents nor Santa that year, only friends and relatives.
My sister, the oldest has never forgiven Mom for taking her Christmas away that year. She was a preteen like around 12 or 13 at this time.
I applaud my Mother for having the strength to follow through with her ultimatum. It was hard on my parents to not buy gifts it broke their hearts. But if Mom did renege on this big of a "threat" we would not respect her, we barley listened and gave her a hard time (as most kids did back in the 70's before all the technical gadgets and we only had the "outside" to overcome our boredom hehehe).
Christmas day my Father fully explained why they went through with it and we learned do not bite that hand that feeds you. Respect the people who support you, if you do not they can stop at anytime.
My sister with no past or present drug use or addictions is similar to KW she cannot get past "what was done to her" and will not look at what her culpability or responsibility was for the situation. She is stuck in the emotion and even in her sixty's now feels the physical pain from the experience, you mention it and she relives it you can see it on her face. Nothing we can say will change her disposition, even now that they are both gone.