I also believe we all have the right to be as pretty as we want to be. The operative word here is WANT. A 6-year old girl doesn't have the maturity to decide that she isn't pretty enough unless she has blonde hair and blue eyes. That is the mother's thought process.
I beg to differ. You are ASSuming that the reason a mother might do the hair coloring thing is because she thinks her daughter isn't pretty enough.
The reason that this comes to light is because when you compete in life there are standards whether we like it or not. You can't go in to interview for a six figure corporate postition and wear a biker outfit and expect you won't be judged on that. Men have standards to live up to just as we do.
In competition judges are the ones who set the standards and our society, which you're all part of folks. Don't blame Patsy for the standards set by the majority of society.
When we try and live up to the standards of those who will judge us in order to get ahead, it's called learning how to increase your chances of being successful in life.
It happens in all forms of competiton in which the winner is not judged on a finish line or a goal, but by the objectivity of judges. And in our real lives, our potential bosses and professors are exactly that - the judging panel.
Little ice skater girls wear glittery outfits like thier idols and if they are really competitive, they probably color their hair a bit so that they really stand out on the ice.
Again, many of you do not live in that world and I understand how easy it may be to stand on the outside and judge motives and morality.
That's fine. The problem comes when that starts piling on and going in a direction where you impose that judgment and morality on someone to determine guilt of murdering their child. That's a serious charge.
I wonder if you think your mother didn't think you were cute enough without those curls. You should be very offended that she didn't love you for how your hair was naturally, I guess. And did she give you those curls so that you could win something? Or was it just so you could go to school and look like other girls? What was her motive? Did she think you weren't worth spending the time with doing your hair and it was just easier? I guess she was Ok subjecting to that just to make her life easier.
Now, before you get totally offended, I'm just trying to make the point that I don't know your mother any more than you really know PR and if I wanted to, I could project all kinds of terrible things on your lovely mother who gave you perms. BTW those electric perms sound scarey!! and funny to look back on I bet. (I had Toni perms and they stunk so BAD!!)
I don't mean any of those things because I have no idea why you had perms and if God forbid your mother was ever accused of killing one of her children, I could probably use why-nutt's logic and figure it into her personality and then make a giant leap into some motive.
So, interjecting one's judgmental opinions in a situation with which one might not be able to empathize, seems unfair when you are associating it with the murder of a beautiful little girl. Gossip is one thing. This has gone beyond that.