"Can't point the finger enough at Mr. Alexander." "If he's such a bad guy, why are you hanging out with him." She's just as much Mormon as he is. Violating the Law of Chastity is "not her fault. No. Let's point the finger at Mr. Alexander." "It's almost unconscionable for her to point the finger at Mr. Alexander." "How could it possibly be her fault when she was thinking 'No.'"
It is excusable when people aren't exclusive to send text messages to other women. "It's okay, you see, when she goes to his memorial service, to get the phone number and call a guy from the plane. What's a girl to do when her ex-boyfriend is dead because she stabbed and shot him?" (Paraphrased.)