Exactly. And as I posted last night, if it is the child's choice not to go, the court cannot order them to. At least that's how it is here and may be the same in other states. Dylan was 13, he is old enough to make his own decisions about whether he wants to visit his dad. And it would seem to me that Dylan should have had a say in the matter.
I still believe that the mom did not have to put him on the plane, especially if she thought he was in any danger from his father. I would take a chance on being charged with contempt, before I would put my child in harm's way.
Come to think of it, maybe that's where this theory that Dad had to fight for visitation came from... maybe Mom did not want him to have these visits, and Dad was determined to see his son. I wonder if the judge talked to Dylan about what his choice was, and he told him that yes, he did want to see his dad, but Mom was still against it. Now she's just bitter because she didn't get her way. Just a thought, not really an opinion, so don't throw tomatoes.