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Sherlock Furby
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Agree. We now know from T's criminal record that she has been arrested for assault and domestic violence. Having survived an almost-decade-long abusive marriage personally, and studying the dynamics of abuse in grad school and working with survivors professionally, I know how incredibly manipulative abusers are. I'm sure she preyed on Al's weaknesses (and Gannon's and Landen's too) and made them all, at times, feel that they were horrible people who were just lucky to have someone as wonderful as her in their lives and that they totally deserved all of her abuse and more because of their own flaws and mistakes. These people know how to find vulnerable targets and exploit their compassion and self-doubt to destroy them.In all fairness, the rumors (posted by people who were allegedly there and watched the whole thing play out, etc.) are that TS set her sights on him and went after him with a vengeance (last part is my words/interpretation). She knew what she wanted and spun her web to get it, as the master manipulator/con artist we now know her to be. There are also rumors that LH and AS’s marriage may have already been on shaky ground at that point or somewhere along the line (and other details I won’t go into here that somewhat equalize the story/may give more insight into his choices and actions), so he would have been even
more vulnerable. While I know AS is an adult and made choices, I still see him as a victim here (not just with Gannon but also in being vulnerable enough to allow himself to be suckered in by TS). The same goes for Landen, who made some (now public) choices she likely regrets now. I know some will disagree and I’m not going to argue or debate the point. We’re all human and we all make poor choices at times, especially with the limited information we sometimes have to go on; hindsight is 20/20. Proverbs 7...
Bottom line at this point is that regardless of past choices, both parents are victims and deserve our compassion. And I’m glad to see them united and presenting a united front now. One poster (not here) posted a pic of their locked hands at yesterday’s presser and said someone should show it to TS because it would surely enrage her; her demonstrated goal/desire was/is to cause further division between them (Gannon’s parents), not unity.
IMO/JMO/MOO
Al made a huge mistake to fall for this wicked woman and bring his children into the dynamic. However, I have made that same mistake myself. Most of us are just doing the best we can to live day-to-day. We're decent folks and believe that most of the people we meet are too. We give people the benefit of the doubt as a matter of character. We are utterly unprepared to realize what is happening and protect ourselves when a master manipulator with no empathy or conscience enters our lives and begins to play their games with us.