Ya know, Aydrianna, we understand people like PF from experience. Back when the dinosaurs roamed the earth and I was young, we all talked to each other. And since I am a child of the 50s and 60s, we lived without electronics. We dated alot and if that first date was weird, we didnt do it again. A long distance relationship was from Cincinnati to Dayton.
Then came computers and 1200 baud modems. We had weekend gatherings where we met in person in groups. And like the date, if we met a weird one, we dropped them.
Now what we have is basically a free for all with some pretty trouble individuals able to hide long enough undetected until they just can't anymore. But by that time, someone TRUSTS them enough to move hundreds of miles, set up a "home" and what happens? The "love of your life" reveals being a nut case and by that time someone gets seriously hurt. NOTE: I am not victim blaming! But what I AM saying is that all those things like intuition, observance, simple in-person talking we used in the olden days on first dates to judge a person for appropriateness, we just don't do anymore like after a first date. Instead, it's all is absorbed behind the curtain of a computer screen. And the unfortunate thing is by the time you find out, you're invested.
It's a horrible shame. But also it's a horrible truth. And if this ole gal could wish y'all one thing, she'd wish you the power of the first date.
IMHO, IMHO
This is a fantastic observation we have not discussed in detail as of yet. The persona of the computer man or woman versus the real person. You are so right Old Lady Blues that by the time you figure out who this person is; sometimes, it is too late. This really was not part of the picture for many of us. Just be careful out there...
