Warwick7
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I beg to differ. In texts SM stated she is scared to be alone with her husband and that he is a master manipulator who uses their children as a tool to hurt her.They were married for along time. I have to assume she was aware of his triggers and reactions. She was over her marriage that is clear. I don’t think we can make the assumption that either partner was cruel throughout their marriage. We have seen grievances from only one spouse other than a few comments from Barry that might be classified as grievances. Fights tend to have a manipulative component to them by nature. “I am going to kill myself will that make you happy” is manipulative. Not knowing what the other person was saying and doing doesn’t give enough insight to determine who was being more manipulative or more cruel or tell us how that ends up with one spouse being charged with killing the other in my opinion. I think this is why DV is so complicated and not always clear or simple to categorize and why it is a sentence enhancer and not a charge.
There is much more she had to say.
Yes, it's her side of the story with her list of grievances.
But, isn't that the point? This is her moment in time to have the right to be heard. She isn't here to defend herself...but her list is.
We've seen it time and again when a woman finally has the clarity to speak up, to tell on her husband, to report his abuse, to demand the abuse to stop......only not to be believed.
In my opinion to minimize a woman's list a grievances is to take away her voice.
Not being believed is probably one of a women's most painful positions to find hetself in.
Speaking out about abuse is never an easy decision for a survivor, many state that it takes a herculean amount of courage to do so.
SM was so afraid of her husband...she wrote list in secret. This was her herculean moment, but she hid it out of fear.....
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