Here we are again with that word "charming" ...it's come up in a couple of threads regarding BM.
I have posted before the use of Charming here is an apt descriptor for BM.
And one of the definitions of charming
Control or achieve by or as if by magic. "pretending to charm a cobra" · "she will charm your warts away"
YES! Remember that the definition of a sociopath or psychopath (think Ted Bundy) includes ALL of the positive words many have used to describe BM based on this brief video--charming, good guy, intelligent, go getter, friendly, etc.
Of course, BM is going to be personable and charming and on his best behavior right now. Note that we can't see much body language, and IF he is a guy that would hurt SM, he's the kind of person who would be cool, calm and collected and a decent liar. He's in the fight of his life (esp if he hurt SM). Note that I'm saying "if."
It was actually odd to me how chummy he was with a stranger--exchanging phone numbers?! Really? BM said they had plenty of help and LE doesn't want random searchers.
Imagine if his CHILD was missing and not his spouse. Would his casual demeanor have seemed appropriate (esp the lion comment). It was SO obvious to me that he was trying to take control of the narrative and distract attention away from himself. He's smart, but not as smart as he thinks he is, and those of us who have followed true crime for years or are interested in psychology have seen variations on the following tactics/behaviors so many times:
a) imply that the crime scene was contaminated b) explain why no evidence might remain if there was a lion attack, c) speak calmly about his wife being ripped to pieces and eaten alive, d) bring up the idea of a wreck AND a river that took SM far off the road, e) criticize law enforcement, f) contradict LE and persist with theories that they've discredited, g) make completely impossible claims regarding his team's search efforts, h) align himself with "the good guys" by bringing up his military hero friend who's helping out.
My goodness, he was masterful. He could not have fit in any more deflection if he'd tried.
We've gotten used to total idiots commiting these types of crimes over the past few years, then making laughable public statements (Leticia Stauch, Chris Watts, and a few others that I can't remember at the moment.) Let's not confuse BMs above average intelligence, confidence, and ability to string a coherent sentence together with innocence. Just sayin' ;-). .