Murphy1950
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I don’t make this post without a lot of deep thought. Yesterday people expressed, “No one is out there saying good things about Barry, you hear nothing.” Followed by posts that read “the good news people/friends aren’t out there trashing Barry, making negative remarks.”
Part of my thinking this through so thoroughly is I had a male relative who passed away last year, knew him 25+ years and he was a total character. Heavy drinker, heavy smoker, ran around on his wife and was a serious gambler but domestic violence wasn’t never on his radar. Had his wife (my dear one) gone missing, I would have easily defended him and loudly even with those flaws. He was generous to a fault with everyone, first to step up and help, volunteered his time and cooked at soup kitchens and never missed Sunday Mass…
What has me perplexed, if Barry was my BIL or if I was a friend of Barry’s or knew Barry and Suzanne as a couple, and could attest to their character, I’d speak up, LOUDLY. I’d be defending him from the rooftop right now. I get that people don’t want to talk trash about Barry…I don’t get that not one friend of theirs has spoken out in his defense, or in their defense as a couple.
IMO, my guess is there is a major character flaw that is overshadowing any positive feeling friends may have for Barry. Come on, they were together 25+ years. NOT ONE word of defense from a friend?
Part of my thinking this through so thoroughly is I had a male relative who passed away last year, knew him 25+ years and he was a total character. Heavy drinker, heavy smoker, ran around on his wife and was a serious gambler but domestic violence wasn’t never on his radar. Had his wife (my dear one) gone missing, I would have easily defended him and loudly even with those flaws. He was generous to a fault with everyone, first to step up and help, volunteered his time and cooked at soup kitchens and never missed Sunday Mass…
What has me perplexed, if Barry was my BIL or if I was a friend of Barry’s or knew Barry and Suzanne as a couple, and could attest to their character, I’d speak up, LOUDLY. I’d be defending him from the rooftop right now. I get that people don’t want to talk trash about Barry…I don’t get that not one friend of theirs has spoken out in his defense, or in their defense as a couple.
IMO, my guess is there is a major character flaw that is overshadowing any positive feeling friends may have for Barry. Come on, they were together 25+ years. NOT ONE word of defense from a friend?