Jmoose
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A good friend of mine is currently embroiled in a lawsuit brought by her brother over their mother's property. Brother is greedy and feels entitled. (He says "I'm the oldest son!")
My friend is not affluent and in her case, this is about property not custody. However, her attorney advised her to settle, otherwise he would drag this out in the courts and it would cost her more in attorney fees. I told her to take her attorney's advice, even though morally, she is in the right. (The brother already has three acres in a desirable area of O'ahu). So I agree with you. Sometimes it's better to cut your losses. I always say, you can make more money.
I understand the urge to fight for what your friend knows she is entitled to-did her mom have a will that specifically states what the disposition of her property should be? Even if she had a will, her brother could make fighting for equity very expensive. I have a friend in a similar situation; it is costly doing battle with people like your friend’s brother, and my friend’s brother. I would have a hard time walking away, because I like to fight, and am a fan of equitable distribution...but your friend’s sanity has to be worth something. I hope your friend can find her peace with this.