These children will likely suffer abandonment issues for the rest of their life, they have in essence lost both parents and their little minds while occupied with other things still feel abandoned. I do not care how much "love" Krista gives these kids she is not NC or BC, the children should be with him. Adoption never works regardless of the circumstances.
Not meaning to pounce on you, but I have to take issue with the adoption never works statement. I'm not sure if you mean in general or with this particular family (even though adoption doesn't have anything to do with this family)?
Regardless there are many situations where children are much better off with a loving adoptive family than they would have been with their biological parents. Some 'parents' are biological parents period and have no business having or raising a child.
With BC I'm not sure that's the case, but apparently he was an absent parent until Nancy started looking at leaving the early part of this year. She noted that this is when he changed and started spending time with the children and being more attentive to them, and others made the same observation.
Better late than never, I guess, but despite his long work hours, long training hours and whatever else he was occupied with there was no reason he couldn't have made time to spend with those girls. A lot of working parents do set aside time for their children -- SH is one example but I'm sure there are plenty more in their circle of friends who did (and do) the same.
Meaning, IMO, spending quality time with the girls didn't seem to be high on BC's list of priorities until he realized Nancy was going to leave him. Sadly that had to have had an impact on their bonding with him - or more specifically the lack of bonding. And while the children appear to 'love' their father, they were (most likely) much closer to their mother since she was their primary caretaker (security, etc) from day one.
I'm not saying BC doesn't 'love' them because he probably does (even if he never said it during his deposition). But, if he killed Nancy, he obviously didn't love them enough or he *never* would have taken her from their lives.
As far as the webcam visits I agree with those who pointed out it's an artificial environment and that alone would make it a bit strained. As would the ages of the children. I do not in any way believe anyone has been or would encourage them to act out during the sessions, and it's likely that JL was involved instead of KL for that very reason (so no negative vibes came across).
I do agree with the L's that phone conversations might be a better mode of communication, although I wouldn't stop the webcam visits -- maybe just mix things up a little adding more phone visits and a little less webcam visits. And again I think a lot of the tension is because of how young the girls are and just having to stay put for that long.
Maybe adding videos that they know are going to 'daddy' would be another option. That way the camcorder could follow them around and they could talk to BC while they played (or did whatever activity). It would be nice to make some following them thru various parts of the day and ending with them going to bed and telling him goodnight. Something along those lines would allow him to 'see' them in a less restrictive way and it seems their behavior would be more natural and at ease. Naturally the supervised visits should be continued too and are probably the best form of interaction.
I'm sorry, I just don't believe in my heart of hearts that it would be in their best interests to be with BC right now (full time that is). Something has to give with the criminal case first, and hopefully it will happen sooner rather than later...