That may be just a bit harsh. I don't agree that she decided Leo wasn't fit to be her child. It's just as likely that she felt able to parent a "normal" child, but was completely overwhelmed at the many difficulties and challenges of parenting a seriously disabled child, who would never be able to grow to live independently, for the rest of her life. In many places in the world, giving up that child ensures the child has a better life and more resources available to them than can be achieved with the birth parent. I don't admire anyone who is forced to make that awful decision, but I'd rather people who feel that they can't handle those pressures relinquish the child safely, before something bad happens.
I don't understand the undercurrent tone that we have to "make" mothers "be responsible", or "make" people parent newborns they don't want to parent. I know there are many families on waiting lists here and in many countries to parent both healthy and disabled kids (newborns are particularly desirable, who have no "baggage", or history, or bad habits yet). I am perfectly fine with anyone safely relinquishing a newborn, particularly birth mothers. The last thing any child needs is to be parented by a reluctant or resentful parent, IMO. Because that never ends well for the child, IMO.
Why is it not "okay" for a woman to feel unable to parent a seriously disabled newborn? I really don't understand this at all. I do understand some women could never abandon their child-- healthy or otherwise. But why are women/ mothers/ society so harsh on other women who make a decision that they would not be a good parent?
I have a really difficult time myself with the concept of "open adoption" that has become the norm for domestic adoptions in this country, but that's another conversation all together. IMO, those conflicted (and selfish) women want the best of both worlds-- the ability to abandon/ outsource the difficulties and responsibilities of parenting on a day to day basis, with the "option" to remain in the child's life, swooping in from time to time as it suits them. I know there are some happy Disney-esque stories of the nirvana of open adoption, but I don't agree with, or admire this policy of "open adoption" at all. I think it's bad for the kids, and I think it puts the child in a very conflicted position for life, when they should be focused on just growing up and making connections to their family. A bit off topic, but there it is, my opinion on that.