Azcrabcakes, what follows is kind of a rant but NOT directed at you. I agree with you 100%
Each person does grieve differently, like each person opens Christmas presents differently, responds to a situation differently . . . but not THAT differently. There are not endless permutations to how a human being will respond.
There really IS a connection, and it is very OK to take note of it and JUDGE because of it. It's OK to form an opinion, and to use that educated opinion to guide further responses from YOU.
A cavalier response is not some kind of isolated response from the rest of the griever's personality. Like you say, it is abnormal, it means much more than "this person goes shopping when they grieve".
It tells a story about the Anthony's relationship with Caylee Marie, how they grieve her death.
They have grieved Caylee in very understandable, "conventional" ways. Shock, outrage, devastation. They have ALSO behaved in appalling ways, and those TOO tell a story about Caylee's place in their lives.
It is about daring to put together the pieces of a puzzle. You can refuse to put together puzzle pieces and therefore, "refuse to judge".
You can use your God given common sense and life experience to put the pieces of the puzzle together, too. And "cavalier" is almost an understatement
to how the Anthony's have behaved in response to the loss of Caylee.
What I see is a family who exploit EVERYTHING.
To even DARE to set up a "grandparent's foundation" and go on Dr Phil and continue to vomit lies and nonsense as if we are so stupid to buy it also tells a story -- the Anthony's think we are stupid enough to believe them. Cindy especially is contemptuous enough to hope her outrageous lies will be "bought" by a seriously stupid public.
They do this, and think we don't NOTICE they are exploiting us, exploiting our outrage over Caylee's death? They are an insult to grandparent's everywhere. They are hiding their intention to exploit behind a serious issue -- grandparent's rights.
I suppose one could refuse to put those puzzle pieces together and chalk it up to individual differences in how human beings respond to grief. For me, I'd have to ignore large portions of my life experience and common sense to do so. I'd have to REFUSE, literally, to THINK.