I don't know if I can type this post...but will see how far I get, I guess.
This past summer brought with it the deaths of 3 family members, including my husband's mother and my mother who died 3 weeks apart. His mom's death was somewhat expected as her health had been steadily declining for several years--though it was still a shock when we showed up for a visit only to discover she'd passed away 20 minutes before we got there.
My mother's death 3 weeks later was completely unexpected. As the ER doctor showed us the results of her scan that night showing massive cerebral hemorrhage, we had to intellectually accept her imminent death immediately--though as of today, I know I'm still avoiding dealing with it emotionally. We had to because there was our dad (her husband of 63 years) to support and comfort as we gathered and waited out that long, bad night...and then a funeral to plan to adequately honor her memory and to love on Dad and all the people who'd had a part in loving her all these years. I guess I'm sharing this to say I understand in a real way that grieving can take years to really sink in and/or accept when it's close family. We can surprise ourselves with the things we say and do under the stress of it, sometimes. So, for me, while I concede that the family (especially the uncle) has made some very unfortunate remarks (even damning ones that are likely to be totally unmerited and unfounded), I'm willing to offer them some grace in measure of how close they were to the deceased.
That said...if ANY medical professional or ANY legal professional had lied to me or misrepresented to me my mother's condition during a time when I and my family were at our most vulnerable, my disgust and anger would probably know no bounds. That is what angers me about this case. In these situations people want to be able to trust the professionals involved...they need to, because they need the truth no matter how much it hurts. So much of this case as it escalated seemed to be an orchestrated uproar by a few supposedly professional people claiming outrageous things and who seemingly have the brains to know better. That is what makes me angry, because if I sense they're not stupid, then that opens up the possibility to me that they're deliberately ignoring the truth and manipulating a grievous situation for some lesser, personal gain. My own response to that sort of possibility is usually to try to channel my contempt for that into some sort of positive counteraction (from twitter posts to article or editorial writing). All we can really do if we believe a certain media case or situation has bigger legal/moral repercussions (and I do think this one does) is to try our darndest to respectfully call out what's false and wrong, and to try to trump it with what's true or good.