KL, I totally agree. There were interviews with family members early on in the case about how Kate needed help with the children for the few days she was home with them every week. One of the grandmothers would come down on a regular basis to assist in their care. She strikes me as a woman who, in order to project a picture of the perfect can-have-it-all lifestyle, wanted children and then didn't know what to do with them.
I see this thread has taken a new twist and turn. Very interesting, I like the inputs, brings new things to light. Let's see, now if I can express my thoughts concerning a few posts that caught my eye.
I believe Kate had adequate an support system in the home most would only dream of. All mothers and fathers deserve this type of support, but we know that's not reality, but it is a Blessing to have it. I agree with this post. Pride Pride Pride is a hateful thing. I see plenty of that in this family dynamic. I don't just blame Kate though. I don't understand why she had to have elected fertilization, their health appears fine, but I know that doesn't mean anything concerning their ability to naturally have children. This just goes to show the (I want, I want I want), it's all about me isn't always the best case scenerio, especially when you bring children in this world. Kate and Gerry aren't the only one's guilty of this selfishness, I do have mercy for them. For some reason, nothing to substantiate these thoughts, feel they had the un-natural fertilization trying to have the perfect child. I hope I'm wrong, and I very well could be. As I learn more about them, unfortunately I see an image of character full of pride.
What is written in our diarys is our private thoughts- everyone has days where they are stressed out and not handling things as well as other days.
Hi Narla, thanks for posting. I agree, in a normal non criminal situation of course it should be private, but that's not realistic here. We are dealing with a life that has disappeared under suspicious circumstances under the direct care and charge of her parents. They shouldn't be offended or hesitant to be an open book, their daughter is gone. They proclaim publically to be doing everything within their ability. This diary is relevant. Gerry's computer is relevant, they are officially and legally declared suspects, they should be investigated fully within the proper legal means.
Are you saying the diary is more paramount because of Kate's rights as a private citizen moreso than solving this heinous un-thinkable crime? For we know a crime has been committed, just not how or by whom. We also know several crimes have been solved due to a diary being obtained by law enforcement. We have to either investigate this case or close up and go home. Which is what some has done, right? Thanks for your input.
I've never seen so many perfect parents as I have on this board!
I'm not perfect, but I'm as darn close as they come. My children trained me well. :dance: I am a product of them. My children aren't gone and dead, nor were they ever left alone so I could party, I have more love in my heart for their safety, my fun wasn't more meaningful to me than their safety in a foreign place.
And a BIG AMEN to that narlacat.
I feel we should want to take apart each and every detail of any suspects life if we have a missing child that was under their care goes missing, even if it's the Pope or Mrs. Mommy Susey Homemaker.
Thank you for the inputs, ya'll are some praying christians, I'm flattered, I'll Amen it too! So be it.
We're in agreements, I feel so warm inside. :innocent:
Yes, but being stressed out and not handling things well shouldn't mean a parent has the right to be aggressive towards their children. We've all seen moms like this- screaming at their toddlers in the grocery store, swatting their little behinds because the children are overtired and annoying the mommies. I'm not saying I'm a saint; I've gotten frustrated with my kids too. But I don't go out and sedate them because I'm having a bad day.
Absolutely. We never have the right to loose it on our children. I did it though. But as I continue in my motherhood, I learned how to control it, manage it and over the years I mastered my behavior in that I don't do it anymore. But it took work and desire. We all have bad days. But for the ones that brought it up, we're not talking about a bad day. You know that. That's a way to distract from what is obviously being touched on in these conversations within the posts. No one has a problem with a parent having a bad day per say. We're human.
I don't know why this woman wanted children. She went out of her way to give birth, but it was a lot more work than she bargained for. Even the help family members provided wasn't enough- she was still stressed out by her "hysterical" daughter.
I feel the same way. Why was her daughter hysterical? That's not normal darn it. I want to know, I want to get to the bottom of it.
Are you saying that if someone admits in their diary to a motive for hurting someone it shouldn't be used against them? Incredible!
I feel like my other christian friends here, so here goes Amen Sister!
As it stands, there is no proof the Mc's did.
Source please- for Kate admitting in her diary a motive for hurting her child - I haven't read that.
It does stand that the Mc's is the most likely killers. Their more likely than not. Their moreso than a stranger. Narla, we all know here we haven't been given the contents of Kate's diary, yet! Like Shazza said, she probably didn't write it down if she is the guilty person. But then again, we have seen in other criminal cases where actually the perp has done some pretty dumb, insane things. Expecting society to believe every tither that comes out of their mouths. Remember, Scott Peterson? He was an absolute poster perp.
I agree diary's contain our private thoughts.
It would be outragious of the Portugese police if they have actually leaked some of her diary. Though par for the course!!!
If the quotes are "true"......as leaks up to now have been embellished and later played down....Nobody's life is perfect.
You can also take something out of context and make it sound bad!!!
I doubt its all positive, whose diary would be!!! It sounds more normal than not that she would think her husband didn't help her as much as she would have wished. Makes them both sound normal in fact!!!
I agree sweet April. I don't want to take anything out of context, I'm trying to put it in context. Write the story of the events of Maddy's life. Find out what happened to her. Just like I know all that is here wants. To find little Maddy, thanks for posting, their interesting and we will know one day what happened to her.
Having three young children so close in age I think most mums would feel occasionally frazzled and be grateful for her families help.
Again sounds perfectly normal to me.
Amen!
Maybe some people here are superwomen.
Well not me, I'm sure I would be only to grateful of the occasional help if I had twins and a toddler.
Yes, moms should be referred to as superwomen, and society and children shouldn't ever forget that either. I wear my crown. I earned it.
Not ever, ever?
Were you always with her?
I know mothers who haven't, I'm just not one of them. But I'm as close to perfect as they come, because I have such a great love for them, I trained myself to be the best mother I could be for them. I had my eyeball on the prize, seeing them grow up happy, healthy and loving their mommy.
Occasionally losing your temper with your children doesn't nessasarily make someone a bad parent. And it's usually when you are feeling tired, frazzled and very human. Even the most loving parents!!! IMO.
And I don't mean losing your temper to the point of being in any way violent.
And I doubt that Kate said in her diary that she was violent to her children or it would have definately been a headline...in extra large print!!
I think we would be lying if we said we never lost out tempers with our children.
And superwoman is not the word I would use.
I would!
Great post.:clap:
You said it better than I could and I love the part I highlighted. :laugh:
Mothers should be set on a pedestal. As women, we should uplift one another continuously. Most mothers don't have it like Kate. Some mothers don't even know where their little babes milk will come from tomorrow. Some mothers take beatings in order to protect their children and to provide.
Mothers are the backbone of this world.