Given that they had been separated for about two years, it’s strange that they made such an effort to find her and talk to her right away, although I guess she was the closest family he had there. But you’d think they would just call her to come in, like they did with other people. Going to the restaurant and surprising her like that might have been a strategy to get to her before she could lawyer up. They took her car, so she pretty much had to go with them. I only say this because, when they looked into finding her, they would likely have found out about the divorce and how contentious it was. Dan’s divorce lawyer was on STS and he said he got a call from someone he knew at the police department advising him of the shooting immediately after it happened. It’s a small town.
I don’t know what a typical ex wife would do in that situation, but I imagine some would say “that’s terrible! What happened? Where is he? Are the kids ok? I dont know who would do this, but we’ve been separates for a while. Am I free to go now? I’ve got to get to my kids!” Absolutely nothing was keeping her there, and nothing required her to give them her phone. And she volunteered her computer, before even being asked, which had Donna’s emails on it.