Shortened for focus.
When I read about when she does and doesn't cry in your post, it made me think that her biggest issue wasn't that she was dead (obviously, from what we've seen and heard), but rather that SS was being untrue to her by having sex with someone else. Like a betrayal to her. Either that or her Woody Allen complex looked like it was likely to have come true. It just feels like to me that it's all about JS, not Maddie, as it should have been. Had it been all about Maddie it's MO that SS wouldn't have been in their lives all these years, and that she'd still be alive, happy, and thriving. Further, it's also my opinion that Maddie wouldn't have needed so many meds for anxiety and things like MiraLAX.
JMO