I know I do feel real sorry for Michelle's family as they are the ones who lost EVERYTHING - their daughter and grandchildren all because of Dale Smith and his criminal family. I was just reading a story on USA today that reminded me of Dale:
http://www.usatoday.com/story/sport...rian-peterson-son-critical-condition/2966015/
Of particular interest:
"The suspect of the alleged abuse is Joseph Robert Patterson, 27, who has been charged with aggravated assault and aggravated assault on an infant. He has a prior domestic abuse record with a different woman and child, having pleaded guilty to simple assault in an incident last year involving an adult female and juvenile male."
The abuser had a history VERY similar to Dale. It just goes to show you that when someone has a repeated violent past...the odds are pretty HIGH that it will HAPPEN again. I fear for the lives of those TWINNERS...ALL JMO!!!
The case continuously is being made that it is Dale's fault, and that is to put it mildly of course so as to not go to through the litany of enumerating the million and one charges that are constantly being made against DS and which would need of course another 100 or so threads to address, and we have done that over and over again, therefore I'm not going to attempt it, since people will think what they will and that's that and of course that includes me as well.
What I was talking about
had nothing to do with the usually
DS is a monster or no he isn't that seems to be the only thing that truly this thread feeds on for the most part and to the exclusion of just about everything else, what I was saying was something about the twins which, rather inappropriately in my view, keep on being used in the same context of attacking DS, and nothing more really.
Particularly,
where the twins are concerned, I was making the point (I'm summarizing here) that at a certain point their welfare are best protected when both sides come together and stop fighting each other, and I understand how radical this must seem to some.
As it was the case, I was making the point, implicitly and explicitly, that at some point one needs to step away from their own respective
echo chambers and realize that the world does not spin according solely on their beliefs, whether they might be correct or not (and usually both) and where the idea is to get results that are real and tangible, one needs to accommodate reality as it is because one exists independent of what we'd like to believe.
Speaking of reality here,DS even after 2 years of investigation has not being charged with anything, and that is so today, tomorrow is something else altogether but what it's not is proof that you're right of anything today. Also a judge having reviewed the facts has found that the best interest of the twins is to be in the care of their father, and that doesn't mean that is fair or just necessarily,
nor am I arguing that fact , it only means that the twins live with their father independent of what people think or approve of .... in other words that's
reality.
Now reality is something people deal with everyday, reality is what one needs to contend with when one needs to get results that are as consistent as possible to one's own goals and wishes, therefore here, being confronted with the twins having been placed in DS's custody, and DS having moved to another state, a situation has been created, (no matter who's fault) that the twins are not in contact with their maternal grandparents and their larger extended family,
that is the issue,
that is the problem. Once one gets to the core of the problem and sets it to solve it then it becomes a question of
strategy.
Strategy is that which one pursues to achieve a goal or an intended outcome, and here, speaking of the twins in particular, the strategy of continuously demonizing DS
is not working, and one knows that by simply looking at particular
reality, or a particular outcome, which exist independent of opinions and the usual protestations that life is unfair or that one must be right notwithstanding not having proven it and everybody is therefore wrong and that one can change that by simply by simply speaking the loudest and the longest ... life doesn't work that way.
Going back to the twins, as I said, absent DS being charged with a crime and absent proof that he's a bad father, and I mean the kind of proof that one can take to a judge or a child welfare agency, then where
strategy is the issue, I would think it best that
everyone who's really concerned for those children, in my opinion would be best trying repairing or building bridges as opposite to destroying them, and that is much more difficult to do then simply calling people names and otherwise not get along at all because it requires much more efforts to building relationship then to destroy them.
In sum, mine is
a question of strategy based on realities, as I see them, and nothing more, and now, if so one wishes one can go
back to the regularly scheduled programming and I think everyone knows which one that is.
JMO
