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That is wonderful to hear!
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MG,
Please don't take this as a criticism directed at you, I keep reading this same comment and just want to be sure we don't give the impression that Tina doesn't love Shannon.
From everything we read from DCF, pediatrician and neighbors; I have seen nothing that makes me think Shannon was not well loved in her home. Moreover I saw signs that she was very loved, by the notes saying the parents continued to follow thru on what was asked of them.
The pediatrician who had nothing bad to say about the care and follow up from Tina. His front desk staff, who I have found in the past at other offices have a tendency to be extremely critical of parents who don't meet the criteria they personally establish, only said Shannon wasn't always the cleanest baby in the office but that Tina was very good about following thru on Shannon's office visits.
I think Tina was in way over her head, Sue Baker found this as an opportunity to move in and take advantage. We have no idea what thoughts and idea's she was feeding Tina. But it is very obvious that while Tina was in an impossible situation, Sue Baker was doing nothing to help and she eventually wore her down.
Many, many parents who love their baby more than themselves, give their child up for adoption, so the child can have a better life. Since we weren't on this ride from day one, we have no idea what went on in Tina's mind for the last seven months, possibly making her think this was the right thing to do.
Possibly even realizing her mistake in the light of day, yet fearing she would be in trouble for giving Shannon away, she may have even asked Sue to give the baby back and being denied, she did the only thing that made sense to her at the time, by reporting her missing. Then spending 4 days not telling LE the truth, out of fear she was going to get in trouble. All the while wanting LE to figure it out and reclaim Shannon for her.
Hopefully this all comes out and Sue, now a 3 time loser if they tie her to lil Paul, will never see the light of day.
Back to the bumpers in the box (I know, old news) I just thought of something. They tell you not to use bumpers in cribs because of the risk of SIDS and/or suffocation. It makes me wonder if putting Shannon into a tiny box like that with bumpers, if SB was hoping that the baby would smother herself on the bumpers, especially with having so little room to move.
Also both my kids were bald as can be at 7 months. I think that's the age when they actually had the least amount of hair. Shannon looks a lot like her mom IMO, just much cuter.
I don't get the no-bumpers thing. I used bumpers, and if you look at the latest celebrity births (from J-lo to Ms. Prinze) they all have baby bumpers in their cribs. Would we rather have our babies hit their heads on the wood? If you watch the TLC show about baby births, most, if not all, have baby bumpers.
Who's "they" who say not to use baby bumpers. What else are parents to use?
All the best,
Mel
ps: Baby bumpers are all the rage on internet sites. If so dangerous, wouldn't sales go down?
I don't get the no-bumpers thing. I used bumpers, and if you look at the latest celebrity births (from J-lo to Ms. Prinze) they all have baby bumpers in their cribs. Would we rather have our babies hit their heads on the wood? If you watch the TLC show about baby births, most, if not all, have baby bumpers.
Who's "they" who say not to use baby bumpers. What else are parents to use?
All the best,
Mel
ps: Baby bumpers are all the rage on internet sites. If so dangerous, wouldn't sales go down?
Baby bed bumpers are up for debate. I had never heard of them when I had my kids so IDK. I was also told to lay my babies on their tummies so if they spit up it would run out of their mouth. That was '77 and '80 though. Things have changed.
Here's one article about bumpers.
http://babyproducts.about.com/od/recallsandsafety/a/bumpersafety.htm
Thank you for sharing this insight Carrie and *hugs* to you. I don't think anyone who hasn't dealt with a person like this personally can understand, I just wish they would stop judging before knowing the extent of the situation.
Hope you feel better soon NMK!BTW, those waiting on a response from me or for anything else right now, might be waiting a couple days still.
I'm sick, the computer's sick, and this is likely to be my last post of the day. I am going to hit the TheraFlu and wait for my doctor to call back.
I'll be back around later or tomorrow, or in a couple of days. God Bless all of you, and most of all Shannon.
chaniilove and Family in Texas,
I am SO very happy that little Shannon is safe and being cared for. I hope that soon she will be back with her family and no longer in the care of a foster family.
I had such an uneasy feeling when EastCoast came on WS and was talking about Susan Baker's past. I couldn't just sit here and not do anything. I am so glad now that I picked up the phone that night and called the Sheriff's office to tell them what we had found out about Susan.
When I heard that the Sheriff's office was surrounding the Baker home that morning, I prayed SO hard that little Shannon would be found safe inside. When I heard the news that she was found alive and was safe, I cried--not for just a few minutes--for hours.
I have no doubts that Susan was manipulating Tina. I can see how that could happen--especially if Tina was being subliminally threatened by Susan. I fully believe that Susan was behind every complaint ever filed with DCF. Unfortunately, because of Tina's diminished mental capabilities, she is likely very trusting--even of those in whom she should have NO trust. As you said, there were many people who trusted Susan with their children--even people who had no mental deficiencies.
I saw something similar to this happen to acquaintances of mine many years ago--the baby was taken away from the mother based on the eventually proven false allegations by a "concerned" relative and then placed with the relative. It took several months to get things straightened out, but not until after the baby suffered abuse at the hands of the supposed concerned relative. The baby was finally returned to its mother and the mother was cleared of all wrongdoing. The supposed concerned relative served a long stint in prison for child abuse. All of this makes me wonder just exactly what Susan's TRUE motives were in this fiasco.
Shannon, and Tina as well, are very fortunate to have such a loving and supportive family surrounding them now. It is obvious from your postings that you are deeply concerned about their well-being, on all levels. The next several months are going to be difficult, as I am sure you are aware, but I feel certain that the truth will come out as to Tina's culpability. I am almost certain that it is going to be minimal--hopefully, the courts will see that, as well. Finding good doctors to examine her and present his/her findings to the court is going to be key in seeing this situation to its best possible resolution.
I hope that you will give little Shannon a hug from me, when you are afforded the opportunity to hold her. She has touched a part of my heart that I will always hold dear and precious.
Warmest regards,
Cleo
Missmybaby,
I was in a home for unwed mothers. At 16 I didnt know what to do but Holy Family adoption agency was affiliated with the home. They sneak in and assign themselves to the young girls who have no clue as to what to do with their babies. Let me tell you that for the 5 months that I was in there, my caseworker visited me once, sometimes twice a week. She belittled me, made me feel like I was the scum of the earth. She told me I couldnt care for a baby, kept telling me how I made stupid mistakes and would probably continue making them if I didnt surrender my baby for adoption once she was born. Here was a bright, educated woman telling this to a scared 16 year old girl who wasnt stupid, just impressionable. So Yes, maybe TM made the wrong decision, and yes maybe she didnt know how to be a mother but she didnt have the best example now did she? She had SB an evil, evil woman!
I don't get the no-bumpers thing. I used bumpers, and if you look at the latest celebrity births (from J-lo to Ms. Prinze) they all have baby bumpers in their cribs. Would we rather have our babies hit their heads on the wood? If you watch the TLC show about baby births, most, if not all, have baby bumpers.
Who's "they" who say not to use baby bumpers. What else are parents to use?
All the best,
Mel
ps: Baby bumpers are all the rage on internet sites. If so dangerous, wouldn't sales go down?