As an aside sort of:
While my hubby's 24 year old nephew didn't harm anyone else, he did take his own life.
From the outside looking in everything seem to be going so well for Mark.
The week before he had been given a big promotion at work. He was also so happy he would soon wed his longtime fiancee. He had just put a downpayment on their new home. He was on top of the world or so we thought. Sigh.
The night he killed himself he had gone out to a movie, and nice restaurant afterwards to discuss details of his upcoming wedding plans. She said he was happy, upbeat, and fully engaged about what he would like done at their wedding. He took her home around midnight, kissing her, telling her how much he loved her, and would call her in the morning.
It happened when cell phones weren't owned by everyone, so 10 minutes after leaving he stops at a pay phone to call his grandmother,, my hubby's mom, telling her he needed to come talk with her, and his Papa, my hubby's father, who he was extremely close to both.
She told him she would leave the light on, and the door was unlocked, and she would be waiting, and watching for him to arrive. Until then she let his grandfather sleep.
It took about 30 minutes for him to get there. She said he didnt park in his usual spot where his truck could be seen, but instead pulled his truck into an area where it was dark.
She heard him raise the volume on his radio then heard a loud BOOM!! She instantly knew it was from a shotgun so she ran to her husband, and they rushed out there when he was taking his last breaths. His grandfather held him until EMTs arrived, and she ran to call 911. It took them also 30 minutes to arrive as they lived on their farm in a rural area.
He came there where he knew he was deeply loved for they had helped raise Mark.
Yet, he destroyed their lives for they never got over it or the trauma it caused them both who were in their 70s at the time. They both are finally at peace for they both have passed away now.
To this day the family gets angry knowing he chose their home of all places. A shotgun blast at close range does unbelivable damage. We try to understand, but it's still so hard because it was so selfish of him to do this to the two who loved him the most.
The actions of those who commits suicide never makes sense to rational people. He left no note behind so there were never any answers why he did this.
While it's a life sentence to the ones who do it ..its also a life sentences for those left behind with unanswered questions that will never be answered.
He was on top of the world or so we thought yet less than an hour later he committed suicide.
It painfully shows these kind of people only let us see what they want us to see.
jmho