ktgirl
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What makes me the angriest above all throughout this whole case is the lack of attention we have seen from the mother of this child. The silence from her is deafening! There is no way in heck that I would sit back and allow this to become a cold case if this were my child. Yet, this is being done. Why?
Bolded by me. I'm pretty sure that's because the mother had/has a drug problem....making drugs the most important thing in her life...even more important than her children. I'm not saying she doesn't love them but she is an addict. And I don't think she was even always or often exercising her visitation before HaLeigh went missing.
The mother also has limited resources- I don't think she has had steady, decent employment. She's used to being used by people (her relationship with Ron sure sounds like she was abused and used) and let down by her own parents (who allowed her to move into Ron's place when she was 14 or something ridiculous and allowed her to quit school.) I don't think she has higher than a 9th grade education. She doesn't have the resources and knowledge of how to properly keep HaLeigh out there like say, Mickey Shunick's family did when she went missing. When you take little resources, low education levels, and add a drug problem, I'm not surprised....
It became pretty clear to me when everything went down with the HaLeigh Bug foundation (or whatever it was called) and when Kim Picazzio dropped her that HaLeigh's mother had been living a very tough life for a very long time and that she was dealing with some very serious addiction issues. I hope for her sake and for Junior's that she has been able to sort this out. I also hope she gets her GED and learns some sort of trade or something to make herself independent.
I also think that in many ways, she is still that scared young teenaged dropout without proper parenting that Ronald got pregnant in many ways. I think she may be scared of him (even in jail) or his family and be too scared to continue to speak out. Now I agree, if I was the mother of a missing child, I'd speak out no matter what.
The thing that sucks is that when you look at both sides of HaLeigh's family as well as the Croslins, it's hard to find one person who seems like someone you'd want around your child at all, let alone be responsible for the child. I feel like Hailey had no chance at all. I hope Crystal Sheffield and her family are doing everything to give Junior a chance. Somehow, though, I doubt it...