GrainneDhu
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Heather and Drew talked about how Lizzie and Lyric would fuss and fight with each other all day long, but when it was time for Lyric to go home, the girls wanted Lyric to sleep over. They appeared to have a sisterly relationship which, IMO, would include competitive behavior (I can ride faster than you, no you can't, yes I can, well then prove it).
I'm not saying this is what happened, but I certainly wouldn't rule it out based on what Drew and Heather have said of the girls' relationship.
I don't have the link at hand, but I posted it earlier - it was the Ron Steele interview.
Even if Lyric was so much faster on a bicycle that Elizabeth didn't stand a chance, kids that age love to figure out handicapping so that a contest is equal. They were both at that age where figuring out the rules for play can be equally as engrossing as the actual games.
It's really fun to watch quietly from the sidelines as a bunch of 7-10 year olds engage in really complicated negotiations over making up rules, sometimes to the point where they hardly have any time to actually play the game.
Of course, developmentally, the point isn't the game itself, the point is in learning how to negotiate with others. That's one of the drawbacks to organised sports for children in that developmental period; even though they get more actual game playing time in organised sports, they are losing out on learning how to negotiate with their peers.
That's also the same point to a lot of the bickering siblings and close friends of that age engage in. It's not really so much about the issue in contention, it's about figuring out how to get what one wants without pushing it so far that the other party walks off.
It can drive the adults nuts listening to the squabbling but it is an important developmental stage. The important thing is that the children engaged have to be more or less equals, so that one child doesn't start bullying the other.
Fussing and bickering all day followed by requests to stay overnight is a good indicator that they had a strong, healthy, perfectly normal relationship for their age bracket.