I have copied your post...for future reference. I know it is such a sensitivity to mainstream Mormons, but to most of us who want to be highly analytical about this...well... it remains an elephant in the room. Having been a Catholic (converted way back, and never knew what it is to unconvert), I have never NOT questioned the Catholic Church. And some of the best arguments/discussions were with Jesuit Priests. I feel that even if one has a personal devout relationship with God or Jesus Christ or other, one can totally believe but still question spirituality and actions.
I personally find heartfelt analytics are next to impossible with my Mormon relatives. It does appear that there is so much "goodness" in living a Mormon life, but all propheting, business, demands, heavy tithing, must dos, can't dos that are just so accepted with no questioning, just kind of boggles my mind.
Your analysis of Chad as living on that edge, of wanting to be acknowledged, but then needing his own ego to be heard is so vivid. I actually "see him in the flesh" so well through your analysis.
On a slightly humorous note, I wonder what it would be like to be in a room with Chad, Snuffer, Parrett, and others. All those Macho drums are deafening. I am kind of like a "just give me a patch of grass to get on my knees and connect with God" kind of person. And through my life I have had many many many a good heady arguments with atheists, evangelicals, even a Scientologist or two. But never with my Mormon relatives. I remember once when I wanted to give a beautiful gift of sculpture to my sister-in-law, and my brother found out it was made by devout Catholic Brother...he said best not to give it. Never figured that one out.
What makes me feel that that the LDS Church MUST be part of this story is because every single character in this drama are Mormons. Do they relate to anybody else who is not Mormon in this entire stream of activity? Melani claims that AxC is so devout. Lori appears to marry 4 non-Mormons. Even our talented and wonderful journalist, Nate Eaton, a Mormon as well, didn't even know of all these weird groups out there. I just hope that Mormons can understand why this is just so confusing to us who are not.
It is a thick thread that pulls everyone together in this whole Netflix drama.
Being raised Mormon my entire life, I see where you are coming from.
All of these fringe beliefs are blindsiding most of us too, other than those actually involved with these groups.
Giving the sculpture to your sister-in-law is a head scratcher for me. I do know of some members that are a bit extreme in their practices though.
I have seen those that have an unhealthy view where they view it through the myopic view that if you are not an "active" LDS member, that they want nothing to do with you. Not a very christian way to be, but people come in all flavors.
There also seems to be a natural hierarchy for many members, which may help explain some of this. Any male member can be called as a: High Council,Bishop, Mission President, Stake or Branch Presidents, Temple Presidents, Quorom of the Seventy, the Twelve Apostles, First Presidency and the Prophet. There are other important positions too, I've just highlighted some here.
To be called to these positions, is supposed to be a matter of Prayer and fasting in theory. In practice though, from an outside view (MOO), I've observed the following:
- Active members that attend all church meetings (3 hour block, recently changed to 2 hr block).
- All of these positions are held by those with active Temple recommends.
- Typically, these men have all served full-time honorable missions.
- These positions are held by men that are in a happy, healthy marriage. I've yet to see a man that is divorced or single hold these positions.
- At least State side it seems that many of these positions are filled by people that are in white collar jobs.It is rare to have a farmer called to be a Bishop or Stake President (both local callings), although there are a lot of farmers here in Idaho.
- There seems to be certain sins that will keep you from receiving certain positions in the church. Part of this is because certain sins keep you from having a Temple recommend. Although, there are certain past sins that would also keep you out of very high callings in the church. - MOO
- Those that get called to the Quorom of the 70's are typically very successful in there chosen careeers (Again made up of White collar workers). The majority of them hold Masters Degrees or equivalent (PhD, Doctorates, etc.).
- When one of the twelve apostles are replaced, they are called from among those in the Quorom of the 70's. When the Prophet passes away, the first counselor becomes the new prophet. At this point it is based on seniority.
There seems to be an unspoken atmosphere that if you aren't getting higher callings over time, you must not be living right. There are many that actively pursue to follow this natural progression in the Church.
I find the trends disturbing, even if this may not be intentional, and is largely influenced by the culture we live in. Many of these men that I have met are very humble and do their best.
There are those that I have met though, that are very prideful, and boastful. They do this to gain glory from the world, and these are the ones that concern me. I think that would describe Chad. He was on this path, and from what we can see he seems to be very prideful and boastful.
Being married to men in these positions, elevates your position among certain members. Their wives are typically looked up to, and are seen, as an authority figure. Their poor children, are looked up to as role models for their peers.
I can see, with the wrong attitude, how dangerous this attitude can be, Especially when you introduce all of these crazy fringe beliefs to someone who already has a big ego. It's like pouring gasoline on dynamite and lighting a match. Boom!
I am painting a picture with a broad brush, so others personal experiences could certainly be different from my own. I thought that this may be helpful to have some insight into some of the dynamics that may have influenced what we are now seeing.
Hope this helps with CD and LVD, and gives some valuable insight.
MOO