Linda7NJ
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I believe that happens, what happened with you. My personal experience is as a family member. My great aunt and great uncle were foster parents for Years. They had over 63 children in their home over the years. The first 2 children they had, a brother and sister, they fell in love with. They tried to adopt them. But after 3 years in their home, the court decided to reunite them with their mother. My aunt and uncle never saw the kids again and were heartbroken. They continued on fostering but said they would never try to adopt again (they also had 3 adult children). They never had a disturbed child situation in their home. The foster kids I played with as a child were no different than me, in my experience. A few of the kids reconnected with them after they turned 18, which was nice. One girl who stands out in my memory was 14, while I was 13. She was super tiny for her age. We both attended my cousins Hs graduation party. It was my first “adult” dress and high heels. This girl shows up in a frilly little dress like what Shirley Temple would have worn. I thought my aunt and uncle forced her to wear this “ridiculous” dress. But that wasn’t the case. They took her shopping and let her choose whatever she wanted. And this poor girl had NEVER had a frilly fancy dress and always dreamed of owning one. It broke my heart, then and now, how different ours lives were. Simply by fate. I thought of this when people were questioning why Natalia might have chosen to dress younger as a preTeen or Teen.
I once had a 16 year old foster child that never had a Barbie doll. That’s all she asked for, for Christmas. It broke my heart.
I bought her so much Barbie crap you’d think I had 5 little girls lol. She would often play with them for hours. She wasn’t delayed in any way shape or form, quite the opposite ...she just loved making up for her lost childhood. Each time she finished, she’s pack everything up, townhouse, car, clothes dolls all of it and hide them in MY CLOSET. She didn’t want anyone else to know.