K_Z
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I feel sorry for Jahi, but I really feel sorry foe her siblings. They have been through so much with this horrible mess. They should have grieved their loss, with the support of their family and friends and community, then MOVED ON. But it is never-ending for them. And kind of morbid, no doubt.
I have two different friends who kind of lived in the 'shadow' of lost siblings. My childhood friend lost a younger sister to a drowning during a family vacation. And her mother made the entire home a shrine to the child. And everything was about her and her memory, and my friend was neglected, emotionally and spiritually. She was even compared to her = like, if she drew a picture, mom would say, I wonder how Sonya's would have looked if she were here to draw one. :cry: My friend became an alcoholic/drug addict. Sadly.
A similar thing happened to another friend in college. She and her brother were hit by a drunk driver. Her brother was killed, and she was not hurt at all. So much guilt came from that for her. And her parents didn't help at all. She truly lived in his shadow for years. IF ONLY was the family refrain, in her mind.
So when I think about the siblings my heart hurts for them. Their childhood has been turned totally upside down.
I know. I was really upset for the younger sibling, who was "persuaded", IMO, to wear a (huge!!) tribute to Jahi on her own graduation gown. It couldn't have just been a day to celebrate the achievements of the sibling-- the family (IMO) had to go and usurp that little bit of normalcy and achievement for the younger one and exploit it into a Jahi-worship situation. That made me very sad for the sibling. That child should have had one stinking day to be the center of the family's attention, IMO. To have her own achievements mean something and be recognized and celebrated, apart from living in the shadow of her sister's sad and awful situation. And even that little bit was taken from her by the actions of the family, IMO. How confusing for a young child, IMO.