The red flags experienced by many families are so benign it's easy to chalk it up to something else (stealing money from an elderly relative; always having to be the centre of attention; being wholly selfish; promiscuity; drug use, etc). We all know a few teens capable of those types of behaviours who aren't disordered. As teens, antisocial's behaviour is usually much more severe though (could possibly include animal cruelty, arson, physical violence, objection to authority, criminal activity, near constant behavioural problems exhibited on every plane of their existence - at school, work, church, home, etc.)
I most certainly believe that abusive personalities and narcissists alike both typically target a certain 'type' of person. Usually, I think these people are often compassionate, trusting (sometimes naive), loyal (to sometimes a fault and their detriment) and very sensitive to what they perceive as victimisation. IME, someone narcissistic is very capable of making themselves appear to be a victim and manipulate people by playing that up. Women who are young or have little relationship experience are more likely, I believe, to find herself in an abusive relationship with an abuser or narcissist - but practically anyone (to include one domestic violence case I know of in which the victim was herself a psychologist) can be taken in by a charming, persuasive, highly skilled manipulator. For some women I've known, it's literally just being in the wrong place at the wrong time. (Like meeting 'Mr. Right' after losing their job or a loved one.)
Less commonly, sometimes someone who is disordered will attract another disordered. For obvious reasons, this brings out the worst in both - like Karla Homolka and Paul Bernardo (Canadian serial killing couple responsible for the rape and murder of Karla's little sister, among other women.)
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That's a therapist with her client??