Perhaps this link will help clear your confusion. I'd also like to see any link that supports your claim that Terri is a "possible child killer." Thanks.
http://www.peterhaiman.com/articles/effectsOfSeparationOnYoungChildren.shtml
For decades, judges, attorneys, and even mediators have been making decisions that result in the ill-advised separation of very young children from their parents or other primary caregivers. Usually these decisions are based solely on the needs of the adults involved. Not enough consideration is given to the short- and long-term impact this separation will have on the child.
JMO
Yeah, and for decades the courts and the CPS have also made decisions that attempted to maintain the family unity and avoid separation and far too many times it has ended in the death of a child. We have many cases here on WS.
Thank you for educating me. I did not see anything in that link to change my opinion though, I still think that a separation from a caregiver is preferable to endangering the child's life and health. The children first need to be alive and accounted for before you can worry about how often they smile at the caretaker. Some caregivers are dangerous for the child and you really need to decide on a case by case basis which one is a bigger risk for the children, separation from their caregiver or the presence of an unstable caregiver.
If you read my post again you will see that the reference to a possible child killer was actually a general question as to what parents would do if they believed their child's other parent has killed a child, not a statement about Terri's status as a possible child killer. I don't believe you need to provide a link to a general question, as per WS Terms of Service.
But if you're interested in Terri and the possibility of her involvement, a good source for the links, in temporal order, is:
http://topics.oregonlive.com/tag/kyron horman/index.html I presume that you are new to the case as if you followed it from the beginning you couldn't have missed the tons of links implying that Terri might have had something to do with Kyron's disappearance. Practically everything written about the case has included some reference to Terri and her possible role. There have been several interviews by Kaine, Desiree and Tony saying they think she had something to do with it. There have been stories saying that she may have attempted to hire someone to kill Kaine and speculations about possible motives to hurt Kyron. LE published a flier with Terri's photo asking for information about her movements. Her attorneys seemed to think it's a possibility that she might be charged, judging from the wording in their various motions. Desiree filed a civil suit against Terri. Kaine filed several court documents saying LE has given him reason to suspect Terri is involved. The judge in the civil case called her the prime suspect in Kyron's disappearance. Just recently Terri's friend Dede Spicher said that LE approached her about Terri and wanted her to conduct a sting on her. Right now the lawyers for Kaine and Terri and the LE/ DA are arguing in divorce court about whether Terri's lawyers can depose the criminal investigators in Kyron's disappearance to get information from the investigation.
Now what that all says to me is that there are people who know more about the case than I do who, rightly or wrongly, seem to think that it is possible or even likely that Terri is involved in or responsible for Kyron's disappearance.
We don't know what happened to him or if he's alive or dead so it's possible that there is no child killer in this case but as far as I know the possibility of Kyron being murdered has not been ruled out. Kyron is a child. So, it follows that the person responsible for his disappearance could be a child killer. (I don't have a link for that, it's just logic.)
It has not been proven in court whether Terri was responsible or not but
that seems to be Kyron's parents' prevalent belief. Whether they are right or wrong I don't know but I certainly can't blame anyone for not wanting to share custody with someone they believe already harmed one of the other kids. If one of my children was missing and possibly murdered by my significant other, I would certainly do whatever I can to try and protect my other children from him. A continuous, stable relationship with no separations from the parents is a wonderful thing when the parents are loving and stable but if he had violent tendencies and had the chance to hurt one of the other children, having had a continuous, stable relationship with no separations would be a cold comfort indeed. I don't think I would ever forgive myself.
JMO but I believe few normal loving parents who haven't been twisted by years in an abusive environment or taken part in the abuse themselves would voluntarily choose to leave their children in the care of someone they suspect of orchestrating another sibling's disappearance, or worse. Protecting the children should always come first.