LEE Takes Memorial Away from Front of House

[Friday]

I haven't agreed with much the family has done, but I honestly kind of understand what he might have been thinking. Though I am sure the cross and memorial were put there in good faith...the discovery of a body is still very new. They haven't formally declared it to be Caylee - though I am sure he knows it is. But his emotions about that are still very raw. I could see how he might see the cross as a slap in the face to the family (though I don't believe that is what was intended). They are grieving and I think the cross in their yard may have been too much. I think whoever put it there probably should have waited until a formal id was made...and a memorial near the discovery site would probably be more appropriate.

I've never liked anything about Lee except his looks; however, in this instance, I can't criticize his reaction to finding a makeshift cross with a "Where is Caylee" tee-shirt hanging on it in his parents' yard.

I think he mistook it for a jeer aimed at his parents for their confrontational insistence that Caylee was alive and KC was innocent. Heck, I don't know it wasn't intended to be exactly that.

Since he couldn't be sure either, he should have removed it, taken it into the house--and then into the garage to dispose of it in private. Had he done so, he would have shamed the "jeerers" (if they were that,) and spared the feelings of the well-meaning, (if they were that).

His actions today remind me of his rude and unnecessary) announcement that all the donated stuffed animals had been thrown in the trash because some smelled like cigarette smoke!

His behavior is uncouth, and I'm starting to think that the cause isn't arrogance, or deliberate rudeness--it's simply ignorance. Many critical comments have been made about Cindy's behavior in her front yard, during media interviews, and most recently, her lack of manners during her newly released interview with the FBI agents.

I'm starting to think she (and Lee) aren't ignoring the rules of common courtesy and rudimentary good manners; I think the two of them at least, may be completely ignorant of those guideliness--from the little things like not chomping gum during an interview to not provoking or engaging in arguments or shoving matches in the front yard. They are such an attractive, educated, middle-class family that it's hard to believe they don't know any better, but I don't think they do. IMHO

 

[LinasK]

Christ! Can't this family allow other people who care, to show their respect in a non-confrontational manner?!!

That memorial was for CAYLEE and he had no right to remove it, downright disrespectful IMO:furious:

I feel good about one thing, he can't remove my siggy!

 

[Blackwatch]

I'm looking all around and can't find the video of Lee removing the memorial-- is it online somewhere??

It was on Tv - FOX

 

[butwhatif?]

I cannot answer for ss.... but for me it was gestalt...ya know? Like looking at a tumor in situ before cutting it out and looking at it under a microscope (yes I am a nurse)

O/T .....
LOL I had a tumor removed a few years back and they asked if I wanted to keep it . EEEEEEWWWWWW!

Am guessing you dont want to keep your anthony tumor either once your done with the microscopic examination

 

[Chilly Willy]

I think they DO need to see these things. For two reasons, the first bieng, they need to know that this is the outcome. Whether they want to believe it or not, IT IS THE OUTCOME. And secondly, the people that are leaving these things at the house, are in essense, extending some sympathy to this family. If they don't allow themselves to get the support that is offered to them, they are going to live the rest of their lives miserably.

I think they are going to spend the rest of their lives miserably no matter what.

 

[vela341]

Finally, someone sees the true picture!

 

[nancy botwin]

It was on Tv - FOX

Thank you for responding! I bet it'll appear online somewhere soon... I'll post links when/if it does

 

[LinasK]

Thank you - that is what I was trying to say...but you did it better. I think he is hurting...and that is very understandable. That memorial is premature and should not have been placed on the A's front yard. Can you imagine what must go through their heads when they have to look out and see that? Not very sensitive in my opinion. No matter how you feel about the A's.

Not premature when there's been tentative identification of her. Caylee has not been kidnapped and is going to walk through the front door alive. There are no other missing kids around there. DNA Id is a formality. Face it, this is Caylee. Lee was the disrespectful one.

 

[Elphaba]

I can imagine as soon as LE clears out and takes down the crime scene tape around the area Caylee was found, that road side will become stocked with loads of memorials...

 

[LinasK]

I can understand, outside of the woods would be a better place for the memorial, when the area has been cleared by LE.

Not really, Caylee lived and most likely died at the Anthony house, so it is a fitting site for a memorial. Too bad I don't live near there, or I'd add to it.

 

[MOMto5]

Okay, 8 pages concerning Lee removing flowers. Someone please explain to me why this is so huge? I understand hyper feelings concerning this family. I get why some have some real issues with the family. But, fer goodness sakes, all Lee did was remove flowers that obviously was an issue for him. For his reasons. Given the circumstances over the last couple days, I do not see how this defines Lee as a whole. And, why should he be concerned about the feelings of total strangers who left flowers. On the curb. Not even on the family property. So, what's the big deal??? I truly do not understand it...

For me, it's not about the strangers that left them, although it is a deplorable slap in the face of the person that cared enough to make the gesture. Maybe the flowers were "obviously an issue for him" but the point is this is not about him. Could he not of thought, "These stupid memorials are really pi**ing me off but you know, ITS NOT ABOUT ME. These are for my precious little niece" and just walked on? Could not ,just for this one single solitary time, Caylee have come first? The anger comes from watching, time and time again, someone in that family put themselves or someone else in front of the one that should have come first.

 

[Pondering Mind]

I think it would be lovely if one of the neighbors would offer their lawn as a place for people to leave flowers and wishes for Caylee Marie. (sigh)

Me too SS. Whether the A's like it or not, SO MANY people LOVE this little girl. It is just so unbearable to think that she lay in the cold wet woods for so many months. Caylee deserves all things beautiful one last time, even if her little soul moved on 6 months ago. ..sigh..

 

[DianeB]

When Princess Diana died, the flowers were placed outside of the gates at Buckingham Palace.

I remember that.

I also remember that the Queen wasn't particularly pleased about the massive outpouring of grief for a woman with whom she had a frosty relationship. Didn't she eventually cave under the pressure of the public and make an appearance to view the tributes?

Cindy may find herself in a similar situation in the not too distant future, of having to acknowledge the sympathy of a public who is well aware she would rather do anything but.

 

[capps]

I can also agree with some posters,understanding why Lee did this. Throughout this ordeal there has been an almost riot mob outside the Anthony house every single day,yelling all sort of awful things at them,and not giving the Anthonys' a moments peace. I am sure Lee is in grief,exhausted,and not really rational at this point.

I can understand.

 

[Lady Sleuth]

I remember how very angry I was when my brother died from natural causes after a very long illness. I was mad at everyone....I would just say whatever to anyone without given any thought to how harsh my words may have sounded. People react differently to handling their grief. Some cry, some withdraw, some could bite the heads off of nails...you just don't know until it happens.

Maybe that memorial in the front yard was just too much of a visual to the pain that LA may be feeling. I know I even felt annoyed that people sent plants and marked them for the funeral home to send home with the family. I didn't want any of those plants in my home. Don't ask me why I had such a reaction to something that was really a kind gesture of condolence....it just hit me hard having to look at them. We had them taken to a rest home to be enjoyed by the patients there.

Lady Sleuth
jmho

 

[LeLe1953]

Thing is, those were probably left there by supporters of the family.

They probably were left there by some one who cares. You don't have to like anyone in that family but your heart can still go out to them for their loss. I sincerely doubt anyone who brought a cross & flowers were meaning them to be dis respectful. I can hear it in court DEFENSE to LEE : You loved that little girl like she was your own, would have taken her in if KC had asked you to, right? PROSECUTER To LEE : "You love her so much you tore down with hate in your heart the flowers & cross put in the yard by mourners, just as your thew away all the stuffed animals donated to her. If fact, you either destroyed or tried to stop any showing on love for CAYLEE by outsiders esp when they :behindbar already felt she was dead at the hands of her mother."

 

[JBean]

I think it would be lovely if one of the neighbors would offer their lawn as a place for people to leave flowers and wishes for Caylee Marie. (sigh)

I totally agree. Flowers aren't for the dead, they are for the living. i think someone offering a nice place for others to pay their tribute, so they all feel like they are doing what they can would be a lovely gesture.

 

[Pondering Mind]

I've never liked anything about Lee except his looks; however, in this instance, I can't criticize his reaction to finding a makeshift cross with a "Where is Caylee" tee-shirt hanging on it in his parents' yard.

I think he mistook it for a jeer aimed at his parents for their confrontational insistence that Caylee was alive and KC was innocent. Heck, I don't know it wasn't intended to be exactly that.

Since he couldn't be sure either, he should have removed it, taken it into the house--and then into the garage to dispose of it in private. Had he done so, he would have shamed the "jeerers" (if they were that,) and spared the feelings of the well-meaning, (if they were that).

His actions today remind me of his rude and unnecessary) announcement that all the donated stuffed animals had been thrown in the trash because some smelled like cigarette smoke!

His behavior is uncouth, and I'm starting to think that the cause isn't arrogance, or deliberate rudeness--it's simply ignorance. Many critical comments have been made about Cindy's behavior in her front yard, during media interviews, and most recently, her lack of manners during her newly released interview with the FBI agents.

I'm starting to think she (and Lee) aren't ignoring the rules of common courtesy and rudimentary good manners; I think the two of them at least, may be completely ignorant of those guideliness--from the little things like not chomping gum during an interview to not provoking or engaging in arguments or shoving matches in the front yard. They are such an attractive, educated, middle-class family that it's hard to believe they don't know any better, but I don't think they do. IMHO

So Well Said! I agree with you on all points. Thank You for writing exactly how I feel. :blowkiss:

 

[*lore621*]

Okay, 8 pages concerning Lee removing flowers. Someone please explain to me why this is so huge? I understand hyper feelings concerning this family. I get why some have some real issues with the family. But, fer goodness sakes, all Lee did was remove flowers that obviously was an issue for him. For his reasons. Given the circumstances over the last couple days, I do not see how this defines Lee as a whole. And, why should he be concerned about the feelings of total strangers who left flowers. On the curb. Not even on the family property. So, what's the big deal??? I truly do not understand it...

I don't understand either.

 

[OneLostGrl]

I agree JBean. I don't agree with the A's actions much, but I can understand why Lee did this.

Me too!