Not a disservice at all, abuse is not just physical, it can be emotional, as well. I do think that there is a Stockholm Syndrome scenario here. The incident that spurred the recognition of SS occurred over a 5 day period, Jaimee was with this guy enough of a time period to have SS a possibility. He was clearly controlling and she followed along, this does not make her mother of the year but I believe the circumstances are such that she could not react the way that others would or the way others wish she had reacted. It is not as much about the seeing as it is the processing of the actions of AB. No matter how much she may have been warned by anyone in the periphery, if she wasn't processing the information appropriately those warnings wouldn't matter.
All of this is, of course, just my opinion. Until I read that she was not affected, did not have a diminished capacity, because of her experience in the relationship then I won't judge her.
You have to see the effects of abuse on someone who has been abused, in any form, to understand her functioning level. IMHO
She is a woman who has lost a child, I have sympathy and compassion for her.
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