Jeana (DP)
Former Member
I'm sorry Jeana, but I don't see it your way....I look in my child's eyes and see all the losses they've faced and would not wish those losses on another child. I think this kid belongs with family, and even if this guy kicked it at an early age, the wife is able to care for him...He would still be with family. Yes, it would be hard on him at that point, but how much harder would it have been to be shuttled from foster home to foster home?
There's an adoption agency in the Chicago area that has turned families away who are obese. These are obese people who are half this guy's size, no medical issues, dr. signing off on their overall health. If you are standing in judgement, where do you draw the line?
If we had chosen this agency (and likely been refused), my son would be dead by now. He was 31/2 and 28 lbs when we brought him home and too weak to walk up a flight of stairs. There is no waiting line of parents for 31/2 year old boys in Russia...they line up for the infant girls. He would not have survived on the little they were feeding him for much longer.
Thank you for a post which promotes healthy discussion instead of just trying to stir the pot. Its posters like you who make it possible for us to discuss the facts without trying to be condescending and/or making a person with an opposing view feel like crap. You've got intelligence and your way of dealing with this issue would actually make people consider the other side, instead of just being argumentative. Good job!!!!