I do wonder what makes these people. We need to try to stop them before they are formed.
I cannot get over the fact that the monster sat there talking to his friend and then took the child. Was he plotting on it the whole time he was talking with the father? Mind boggling.
Like IB says, he must have been hiding his real self.
My guess is little one came down from upstairs in the wee hours and fat boy was there on the couch. Everyone else was sound asleep. The fact that he was still awake after playing softball in his rotund shape, in the summer heat, drinking until 2-3 in the morning and still awake enough to sit and visit? Sounds like meth to me. The average person would have been sound asleep.
As far as stopping these people before they are formed, (I hesitate to state 'men' because remember Sandra Renee Cantu; killed by a woman), my opinion is there is not a way to do this as of yet. I don't think we have the medical or psychological tools needed to stop their formation.
But what we do have is the ability to PREVENT it. All of these people that do these things share one common trait and that is they are predators. It's as simple as that. Letting your 5 year old go out and explore the block
alone because she 'should' be able to is the wrong mindset. We need to wake up as a society and understand the inner workings of a predator.
Do not let your child be alone with people. PERIOD. If some friend of yours or neighbor or relative is telling you to let them take your child and you resist and then they make you feel foolish about it or pressure you to do it anyway STAY AWAY FROM THAT PERSON. Particularly a man. Any man that insists on watching the kids so you can have a little 'me time', insists on taking the kids camping, to the park,
away from you, this person needs to be blocked from those activities.
Any person that likes to 'connect' with your kids and play on the floor, tickle fests, touching, tickling, wrestling that type of thing they need to be watched and never left alone with your children.
The INSTANT you have that little, tiny, distant thought go through your brain, "Oh he would never do that" is the time you need to act.
People who constantly like to broach that intimate fine line are the most dangerous of all and I'm here to tell you it's your relatives that are on the front line of all of this.
Sitting at your Thanksgiving table are probably some of the most dangerous, vile creatures you will ever have to encounter and that right there is the sad fact. ESPECIALLY the ones that continually are trying to ingratiate themselves. "Oh let her call me Uncle I like it." "Are you daddy's little girl? Are you a daddy's girl? Come see what Uncle has for you in his coat pocket."
I've lived it. It has to stop. It stops by saying no.
