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Missing girl's grandmother recalls family's anguish
Lois Warner, 55, is the grandmother of LeeAnna Warner, who was 5 when she disappeared in June 2003 near her home in Chisholm, Minn.
Richard Meryhew, Star Tribune
Last update: December 02, 2006 9:21 PM
Lois Warner, 55, is the grandmother of LeeAnna Warner, who was 5 when she disappeared in June 2003 near her home in Chisholm, Minn.
Despite an exhaustive search of LeeAnna's neighborhood in the hours and days afterward and several follow-up searches over the years, investigators have yet to find out what happened to the girl.
In the aftermath of the Nov. 22 disappearance of brothers Tristan White, 4, and Avery Stately, 2, on the Red Lake Indian Reservation, Lois Warner talked about her feelings and her family's experience after LeeAnna vanished.
Q. What was your initial reaction when you heard about the missing boys?
A. Oh, no! ... And I guess fear for this family, watching them on TV and knowing what they are going through -- knowing the fear and panic they are going through and the lack of sleep. ... And hoping that it goes easier for them than it went for us. ... I can't imagine the grief that family is going through.
Q. What was the hardest part of the search for a missing child?
A. When the big search is over and you don't have any answers and you have that letdown and everybody goes home. And you look at each other and say 'Oh, my God, now what?' It's a very lost, helpless feeling.
Q. What advice would you give to the family of Tristan and Avery as they continue to search for the boys?
A. Work with the media. Don't hide from them because you are scared, like we did. ... And work with authorities and remember that they are doing their job the best they can and that they are human beings and that they too are grieving with you and want to give you answers. ... And get used to people you don't know loving you, and accept their help and caring. It's hard when you are so overwhelmed with grief that all you want to do is be alone. [But] you can't afford that emotionally and spiritually.
Q. What have you learned in your experience with LeeAnna's case that has helped you survive the darkest days?
A. Don't allow your thinking processes to get out of control because it does no good to envision the worst. There are certain areas where I won't let my brain go. ... Stay strong, stay focused, be courageous and know that you are not alone.
Q. As time passes, does it get any easier for you to deal with what happened?
A. No, it doesn't. ...You just have to have a very strong faith. And if you don't have faith, you have problems. You don't have anything tangible to hang onto. We have channeled it well and we have a strong faith. And we have a great support network.
Richard Meryhew 612-673-4425 richm@startribune.com
Missing girl's grandmother recalls family's anguish
Lois Warner, 55, is the grandmother of LeeAnna Warner, who was 5 when she disappeared in June 2003 near her home in Chisholm, Minn.
Richard Meryhew, Star Tribune
Last update: December 02, 2006 9:21 PM
Lois Warner, 55, is the grandmother of LeeAnna Warner, who was 5 when she disappeared in June 2003 near her home in Chisholm, Minn.
Despite an exhaustive search of LeeAnna's neighborhood in the hours and days afterward and several follow-up searches over the years, investigators have yet to find out what happened to the girl.
In the aftermath of the Nov. 22 disappearance of brothers Tristan White, 4, and Avery Stately, 2, on the Red Lake Indian Reservation, Lois Warner talked about her feelings and her family's experience after LeeAnna vanished.
Q. What was your initial reaction when you heard about the missing boys?
A. Oh, no! ... And I guess fear for this family, watching them on TV and knowing what they are going through -- knowing the fear and panic they are going through and the lack of sleep. ... And hoping that it goes easier for them than it went for us. ... I can't imagine the grief that family is going through.
Q. What was the hardest part of the search for a missing child?
A. When the big search is over and you don't have any answers and you have that letdown and everybody goes home. And you look at each other and say 'Oh, my God, now what?' It's a very lost, helpless feeling.
Q. What advice would you give to the family of Tristan and Avery as they continue to search for the boys?
A. Work with the media. Don't hide from them because you are scared, like we did. ... And work with authorities and remember that they are doing their job the best they can and that they are human beings and that they too are grieving with you and want to give you answers. ... And get used to people you don't know loving you, and accept their help and caring. It's hard when you are so overwhelmed with grief that all you want to do is be alone. [But] you can't afford that emotionally and spiritually.
Q. What have you learned in your experience with LeeAnna's case that has helped you survive the darkest days?
A. Don't allow your thinking processes to get out of control because it does no good to envision the worst. There are certain areas where I won't let my brain go. ... Stay strong, stay focused, be courageous and know that you are not alone.
Q. As time passes, does it get any easier for you to deal with what happened?
A. No, it doesn't. ...You just have to have a very strong faith. And if you don't have faith, you have problems. You don't have anything tangible to hang onto. We have channeled it well and we have a strong faith. And we have a great support network.
Richard Meryhew 612-673-4425 richm@startribune.com