Not if she didn't want her children to know she purposely harmed herself.
Because of her limited mobility, she would have been found by now. They did a thorough search of the city, nearby railroad tracks, etc.
Not if she didn't want her children to know she purposely harmed herself.
Has it been confirmed Betty only had one pair of glasses?
I can’t see this being possible due to her poor vision. The daughter has been quite vocal that her mom must wear glasses. A big clue is the fact that they were left behind. Whoever took Betty or led her away, either knew about her poor vision and used that to their advantage, or they didn’t know/realize Betty even wore glasses. I think it was someone Betty knew well enough to open the door, be led away but that person intentionally refused to take her glasses.
Because of her limited mobility, she would have been found by now. They did a thorough search of the city, nearby railroad tracks, etc.
I agree, mostly people are found, but there are cases they didn't find a body or years later even thought they searched until the moon and back.
I feel very sad for Betty. Trying to imagine how her life looked like, before she went missing. For clearance I ignore the details for now.
- She was bi-polar, I suppose she should have taken medicine to keep it under control. IIRR she didn't took her medicines for a couple of days. Things could have gone from bad to worse.
- Her spouse died, one of the most stressful events in a human life, sometimes causing memory loss, concentration problems, mental pain and what not. This on top of struggling with mental health problems.
- She had terrible back pain, must have been bad, taken fentanyl for it.
- She was totally dependent (or made dependent?), not "ready" for a world full of electronics, apps, having to arrange everything digital on the internet, etc. Her husband took care of everything. Also this would cause a lot of stress, not knowing how to handle things (I remember a lady who's husband had died and she panicked totally when the electricity went down, because a fuse had blown and she didn't even know where the fuse box was.) She couldn't even handle a mobile phone, let alone other (mobile) devices, she had no transportation, her daughter took care of her finances. In other words she was or would have been totally lost in the modern world.
- She had dementia in the early? stages. That would mean she had clear moments where she would realize that she was "loosing" it. On top of mental health problems, physical pain and mourning.
- The "highs" in her life were the visits of her children, the church and the weekend visits at her daughter's. All arranged, nothing spontaneous.
- The family arranged for her that she wouldn't go living on her own anymore, taking away the little independence she still had.
- She was poor
Someone told me "God wants us to live a livable life". For me personally this would be hell on earth.
All the family interventions around her sound very altruistic and is surely full of good intentions, but taking all the above things into consideration I think we should't close our eyes for the possibility she somehow took her own life or she called someone to help her with it. I'm leaning to wondered off, accident, suicide, not foul play. IMO
Where would she be? She had no car, didn't drive. She had limited mobility from serious spinal damage from an accident, had back surgery, so she was unable to walk very far. She lived in a small 1 bedroom apartment, no basement or attic. She was in a downtown area, near the fire station, city hall, police station, post office and small business district. All were thoroughly searched. No abandoned buildings nearby.
JMO, the odds are against it.
A few things. That $200, was it in 20s, 50s, or $100 bill? Because if it was in 20s she could’ve been saving it a little bit at a time.
Tonya the daughter, seemed to feel something wasn’t kosher about the brother and his wife breaking into the apartment and moving everything out before all investigations were completed.
This church she went to you and Sunday, was it within walking distance?
I don’t believe for one minute that it was a suicide, the body would’ve been found because she wouldn’t of been too far from home as to her inability to walk far.
That’s all I’ve got right now. All this is IMO, JMO
I feel very sad for Betty. Trying to imagine how her life looked like, before she went missing. For clearance I ignore the details for now.
- She was bi-polar, I suppose she should have taken medicine to keep it under control. IIRR she didn't took her medicines for a couple of days. Things could have gone from bad to worse.
- Her spouse died, one of the most stressful events in a human life, sometimes causing memory loss, concentration problems, mental pain and what not. This on top of struggling with mental health problems.
- She had terrible back pain, must have been bad, taken fentanyl for it.
- She was totally dependent (or made dependent?), not "ready" for a world full of electronics, apps, having to arrange everything digital on the internet, etc. Her husband took care of everything. Also this would cause a lot of stress, not knowing how to handle things (I remember a lady who's husband had died and she panicked totally when the electricity went down, because a fuse had blown and she didn't even know where the fuse box was.) She couldn't even handle a mobile phone, let alone other (mobile) devices, she had no transportation, her daughter took care of her finances. In other words she was or would have been totally lost in the modern world.
- She had dementia in the early? stages. That would mean she had clear moments where she would realize that she was "loosing" it. On top of mental health problems, physical pain and mourning.
- The "highs" in her life were the visits of her children, the church and the weekend visits at her daughter's. All arranged, nothing spontaneous.
- The family arranged for her that she wouldn't go living on her own anymore, taking away the little independence she still had.
- She was poor
Someone told me "God wants us to live a livable life". For me personally this would be hell on earth.
All the family interventions around her sound very altruistic and is surely full of good intentions, but taking all the above things into consideration I think we should't close our eyes for the possibility she somehow took her own life or she called someone to help her with it. I'm leaning to wondered off, accident, suicide, not foul play. IMO
Betty Alexander- Missing Person Info PageI wasn't aware she was bi-polar. Does anyone have a link for that information? I've never seen it on the missing flyers or in news articles. TIA
Good point, her saving up the money.
The brother(s) and his wife claim something else/telling a different story. Betty Alexander- Missing Person Info Page
Among other statements this is said by the Schoonveld families.
For clarity, we did remove her possessions from her apartment, after the rent became overdue by two weeks and Betty still missing for nearly 6 weeks. It was our RIGHT to make this decision especially after attempts to meet on this matter were ignored. She is our mother too. The apartment could not be left because it was subsidized for low income people, with a waiting list to move in. The police informed us, they were finished with their investigation in the apartment, and in the initial meeting between the siblings, we had all agreed that Betty wouldn’t be living on her own again. We did NOT clear it in the middle of the night, but all evening and into the night, because that is when we had time to do it.
If she had an inability to walk how would/could she make shopping plans with her daughter. The use of a wheelchair?
Betty's daughter said the rent was not overdue. It was paid up. Her daughter was trying to coordinate with Betty's son to go over and take care of the apartment when the time was right, but they were having trouble setting a date. Then the brother suddenly let himself in, cleaned it out and changed the lock, all without telling anyone else in the family.
Thanks!
I read through all of that and still didn't see a mention of her having bi-polar disorder, only that she was in the early stages of dementia. For now I'm going to assume that information is inaccurate as I've never seen it anywhere else. No offense.
I'm not taking sides on this. I don't want to be in the middle of a family fight and end up in a discussion with you about who is right or wrong or telling the truth or isn't.
It's there:
We as family know Betty. She did have dementia, and her diagnosis, we don’t fully know how severe because once a patient loses their spouse, they are known to decline rapidly. At the initial search on Monday, April 15th, the police said that Betty had an episode at the hospital banging on the window because she couldn’t find her way out after a doctor visit. Betty had a history of bi-polar disorder. She had a history of visits to New Hope, and other psych wards, to level her out.