Well... well... well.... I'll be an aunty's cat!
I'm another one who has followed this thread from the word go and have a subscription to it so I don't miss out on any posts.
I'm surprised and I must admit, to some degree, somewhat shocked. Almost speechless. On the other hand, I also know that people are not always, nor do they always do, what you think they would. Still, it can be quite a surprise as in this case. Yet at the same time, it all makes sense now.
The only thing that made it iffy for me was this talk of possible money embezzlement. However, having said that, $20,000 to me seems like a small amount to make a run for it... but then, it's a large amount if you have no possible way to pay it back and face criminal charges. And I imagine, embarrassing and feeling trapped knowing that if you don't have that type of money, you can't just put it back and get on with things where noone is any the wiser at what you had done.
About 15 years ago, a woman I knew rather well, would, here and there, tell me and another friend her woes and griefs about her two adult children and we had some good in depths talks. They were both bipolar, unpredicable, took advantage of her too often and at times, quite nasty towards her and seemed to take her for granted. Her son was also a drug addict and would rob her home and so on for money... she seemed to take it all in her stride... but...
One day she walked into the small studio we three worked in and said something to the effect of.. 'I'm changing my name and going far away forever and you will never see me again. Besides you two, there's only one other person I'm telling this to before I disappear, only because you are who you are and I know that you don't know my family and children. I'm not telling you anything else just in case by the off chance, if someone asks you about me, you can honestly say, 'I don't know' and you won't have to lie, cover up for me nor be in a position to slip up.'
With that she turned her back on the two of us and walked out without looking back. I've never seen her since, but I still sometimes wonder how her family and other friends must feel never knowing the little bit I and my other friend knew.... an unsettling eerie feeling.
I can imagine, that in Linda's case, her family would be and will go through, a whole gamut of emotions and feelings to resolve this in their own minds. It's a hard one to get my head around.