cvaldez1975
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the way my partner's attorney explained it, the pre emptive strike usually sets the tone for the case. we had a setback but easily got back on course since he took the first strike and mom proved herself to be, well herself. luckily we are from a more equal state. in NC, AW def needs a lawyer pronto.
Look up the process for filing a custody dispute pro se on the courts website. It's not as clear cut as you may think. I hold a Ph.D and had to look it up for my niece and I was at a loss at how to proceed. The instructions are very unclear and confusing and if you get anything wrong the entire set of paper work is thrown out and you have to start over. I've noticed a few people mention that the court will help you. They won't help you. They will answer questions on the process but they can't assist you in filing out the paperwork since they are not attorneys, just clerks.
As for pro bono representation. Good luck being a man and finding that kind of help. It's virtually non-existent, even in larger cities. Men are second class citizens in this country, no one cares about our rights or the problems faced by low-income men. Society was built on the sexist notion that if something bad happens to a man it's his own fault because men shouldn't fail. This is most clearly demonstrated in the family courts. Men go in with the presumption of guilt and that they have an innate lack of parenting skill.
Even in domestic violence situations, if a man is attacked and hurt by his female partner and he calls the police he will still be arrested and carted off to jail in many jurisdictions. It's called the Duluth Model. The Model posits that in any domestic violence situation the man is automatically guilty, even if he is the victim. You're a man and your spouse attacks and harms you, YOU have to leave your home and find other accommodations while the abuser gets to stay in your house, that btw, you are still required to pay mortgage or rent on, with your children. The entire system is stacked against men.